I fear i may have an eating disorder?

Question

Hi this is difficult to talk about but ove rthe past 2 years i've lost weight and i'm proud of it but over the last 6 months i have been wanting to get slimmer,now i would consider myself as fat even though people tell me i'm not , why would they , if someones fat people wouldn't say it would they, anyway i'm scared i might become anerexic if i continue with this obsessive exersizing and only focusing on my weight and not thinking about anything,i feel that if i ask for some kind of assurence now , then my obsession wont continue and i'll be fine
my bmi sayd i'm not fat i'm normal but i see myself wanting to get below normal,its strange its this compulstion i have

can anyone help me and tell me what to do

note:i cant tell anyone i just want to settle this on my own
thankyou
xxxxxx

Answer 1

Dear Kate,
I think you should see someone that knows about these things. A doctor, or better a nutritionist or a psychologist specialized in eating disorders. Also, try to get distracted, see friends, enjoy life and find a challenge that is more constructive than controlling what you eat, which is not healthy.

I had anorexia when nobody in my country (Italy) knew what it was and it took me a long time to get over it. I reached the weight of 35 kg (about 85lb or 6 stones) and saw myself fat. I was counting all the calories I was eating and trying to eat less and less. Strangely, I still had the energy to swimm for 1 hour every day and I passed my final school exams with merit. Except that I collapsed afterwards...
Twenty years from there, I still feel like eating is an issue and I feel upset if I put on weight. I tried to sort this out on my own, as I didn´t have a lot of confidence in psychologists, but I think it was a mistake.
Email me if you want to chat
Love and good luck.
x

Answer 2

oh girl where can i start with I do know that you have said that you dont want any help cause you want to resolve it your own
but guess what you do indeed need that extra help you wont be able to this on your own there is no way not the way that you are saying about your obsession with weight and wanting to lose more weight , and you thinking that you are fat knowing that your not. See you need professional help. I say it because i do sufer from an eating disorder i will not tell you my weight because thats something that im trurly fighting with I do see professional for my problem but let me tell you girl that I have suffer from an eating disorder for the past 9 years and it hasn't been an easy stuff for me I have gone for so much from losing my hair to having flabby skin, to feeling sick at all time not being able to concentrate or dealing with my two kids that i have. I have gone into treatment but everytime i've gone in something bad happen and i would come back with the bad habits. I started more or like from what you are saying thinking i was fat and people telling me what i didnt whant to hear your skinny the more people would tell me your skinny the more it motivated me to be thinner and thinner it really got badly. Your eating disorder is taking control of your mind girl and this is only the beggining cause once you want to stop you can't it will be a battle and it could be mortal I can keep going on with this topic for so long all i ask you to please get help you wont be able to do this on your own and accept that you have an eating disorder this are the first step to correct and get helped please dont turn out like me there are so for you to do in life then taking a bad path I took it and it's very hard to staright it out again so please dont let this illness control you mind andget help

Answer 3

I've struggled with anorexia for years and I feel like I'm reading what I used to say!! I'm sorry to tell you, it's EXTREMELY difficult to "settle" it on your own. It just gets worse and worse. It's as addicting and deadly as any drug. I am only 26 and have had 2 heart attacks and a stroke. At my thinnest, my hair was falling out in huge clumps, I was always freezing, my ribs stuck out further than my boobs, etc. It's not a pretty disease.

But if you don't want to get counseling or anything, check out the EDA websites or ANAD. They offer very effective, free, confidential support groups for eating disorders.

It's good you want to get help and recognize you ahve a problem, but you need outside help. I guarantee you it will only get worse if you don't. In the meantime, if you have a scale, get rid of it. That's the first thing any treatment center will tell you. Limit yourself to exercising just 30-40 minutes every day, instead of hours if that's what you're doing now.

Good luck.

Answer 4

You may not have one now but it may develop into something more serious. You say you have a normal BMI - good. But please look at those horrendously skinny female celebrities - sooooo ugly, it looks really unhealthy. Do you really want to get any thinner?

I think adrenaline is addictive - if you are obsessively exercising, you'll be damaging your muscles.

And listen to your friends when they say you are not fat.

I lost weight through illness once and it took me a while to achieve my normal weight again. I feel much better for it - when I was underweight, I often felt weak, my skin was dull and I didn't seem to have any energy reserves. There's a reason there's a happy medium for your weight.

Why can't you speak to anyone? I think you need to, before it goes too far.

Answer 5

By chosing not to tell anyone and to settle this on your own, you are removing something really important from your thought process here and that is the perspective that other people's thoughts and opinions can give you. The other thing you are missing out on is factual information. I really think you should speak to a doctor or a at least a nutritional health specialist so that you can find out some facts about healthy body weight, recommended diets and exercise regimes and how to deal with something that is obviously becoming traumatic for you. We are all too subjective to be really and truly dispassionate when thinking about our own bodies, please seek someone's help and advice.

Answer 6

If you are obsessing about you weight and you have a distorted view of your body then I would say you are at risk of becoming anorexic. Please remember that the reasons for developing anorexia are not to do with food. Its all about control. Do you feel out of control in other areas of your life?
If you BMI is within the normal ranges then you are obviously not overweight and have nothing to worry about.
But to be honest its not as easy as someone telling you that you are not fat, you have to believe it yourself.
I suggest going to your doctor before things get any worse because if you cant get over this illness by yourself (most people cant), then it could kill you. sorry to be so blunt but its true.
I hope you manage to work things out.
I'll be thinking of you.

Answer 7

definite, it sounds such as you have an eating illness - the two anorexia and bulimia. My sister suffered anorexia merely final 3 hundred and sixty 5 days and replaced into admitted to the wellbeing middle. i'm specific you do no longer choose this to take place to you, because of the fact i be attentive to she replaced into honestly depressing. She is back residing house now, and is doing extra effective, yet continues to be very skinny, so do no longer think of they make you eat a gaggle of junk and get fat. the main suitable situation you're able to do is to tell a depended on person. i be attentive to it's going to be no longer worry-free, yet anorexia and bulimia can the two reason death for many reasons. i might advise speaking to a be certain, counselor, or physician, because of the fact they could in all probability assist you out the main. in case you do no longer choose to be admitted to the wellbeing middle, then you rather could stress your self to eat many times and not trouble approximately your weight or the form you seem. Your weight is entirely a extensive selection, and as long as you're happy with your self and are eating healthily, then i think of you will experience extra effective. i'm hoping i could want that can assist you you out. good luck!

Answer 8

We always seem to have a distorted image of what we look like when we look in the mirror. The problem happens on both ends of the continuum. When a person is skinny and looks at theirselves in the mirror alot of times our perception is that we are not skinny enough. At the other end, alot of guys who take steroids look at theirselves in the mirror and their perception is that they are not big enough.

So basically if you are starving yourself then you have a problem. A general rule of thumb is to be consuming 15 calories per pound. For example, if you weight 150 currently and want to weight 140, you should aim to consume 2,100 calories (140*15 calories). These calories should be spread throughout the day in 5-7 small meals.

Answer 9

I have the same issues as you. Although, I'm not anorexic but bulimic. Well, I flitter between months of extreme dieting and months of binge eating then purging. I don't want to be like this, but also I would rather be like it than be fat. I am quite slim but have a need to always be thinner. I'm probably not in a position to give you any advice but just to let you know that you are not alone :)

Answer 10

I know you dont want to tell anyone, but you need to. That way you can get the help you need. From what you have said you sound borderline anorexic. You are going to need the help and support from your friends and family to get over this, but its a good sign that youre asking for help. Go to your doctor and they will be able to put you in touch with the right people and organisations to get you through. Good luck