how do you know you are in love with someone enough that you want to marry them?

Question

my boyfriend keepd talking about thet future

Answer 1

how do you know you are in love with someone enough that you want to marry them?

As far as I am concerned the answer to your question depends on several conditions. How much you love this man. Whether or not you can see yourself with him in the future. If he is the "bad boy" and you think you can change him, forget it. As a man observing the way those "bad boys" treat the women they supposedly love before and after marriage, I can say that most (as I have not observed all) of these men do not change (i.e. the guy with a beer gut, beer in one hand, remote in the other, and ordering his wife around) . Make sure he is treating you nice and loving you because of who you are and not because of what he can get from you. Love is a beautiful and special thing and must be true, real, respected, and nurtured. If you know that he is honest, you love him, and you trust him. I would like to ask you a question in return. You are going to be alive into the future somewhere and in some capacity. Honestly speaking, what do you see yourself doing in the future that would be hampered by taking the journey with the man you love? If this is the man you love, sharing your life with him can only make your journey better. If you are having second thoughts, ask yourself why, re-evaluate your relationship, and access your relationship. If your second guessing yourself is simply insecurities caused by what hurtful men have done to you in the past, of which this man is not guilty. Don't make him suffer, lend him your heart, allow him to lend you his, and enjoy one another. Love should be enjoyed above and beyond all else and not feared. The most important things are that you both respect one another, give each other freedom to be ones self, trust one another implicitly, love each other as if this is your last day on earth, and keep that spark alive. Love is like a plant. You can plant the seed in the soil of your hearts. However, if you do not water and feed this plant it will die. Working at love is not difficult at all. Someone once told me the easiest and best solution to this. Both people in a relationship want and need to be fulfilled. And although the media and society would have one believe that one should look out for one's own self interests first, (It may a good practice in the work place, but not in a relationship) egocentrism is not the answer. If each person involved in the relationship focuses on what the other person needs and desires before their own (without negating their own), each person will be satisfied and fully provided for in all areas. Moreover, both people will be fulfilled without anyone being egocentric. This can only be accomplished with open communication. You can't hide your desires from one another. Nor can you expect the other person to be a mind reader. Communicate your hopes, fears, needs, and desires to one another and work through them together. You will be amazed at how happy and fulfilled you will be with each other. Equality, respect, trust, and communication, remember these words and you should be happy together. Also marriage is not always the answer. In this modern age some choose to live together in a committed relationship. I hope you and the man you love have a long and happy future together.

Sincerely,

Shane F.

Answer 2

Honestly, I don't think its about loving someone enough...it has to do with whether or not you are ready. You may love someone deeply - enough to marry them...but you may not be ready for marriage.

Realize that, after you are married, the feelings you have for that person will change. It won't be the same kind of passion or excited love that you feel now. But if they are your friend, and you are completely compatible, you will roll with that changing love. Both of you.

Age is also a big factor. The kinds of people you love in your teens, will be different from your choices in your twenties...and again, in your thirties. So you need to be sure they are the kind of person you can respect throughout all your changes.

I wish the best for you. And when in doubt...don't do anything.

Answer 3

All you have to do is ask yourself these simple questions. Can u live without him? Do u want to spend the rest of ur life with him? Are u prepared and willing to put up with any crazy habit he may have? Do u love him just the way he is?... If ur answer to all these questions is yes then you are more than ready for marriage. Go for it!

Answer 4

Can you see yourself spending years on end with him? Can you imagine supporting him during good times and bad and do you think he'll do the same for you? Most importantly, is he your best friend? In my opinion, that's what it takes. That's how you know. Because if your not best friends it's awfully hard to get through the rough stuff. It takes mountains of patience, understanding and laughter. If you have any doubts, don't do it. It's much harder to get out of than get in to. It sounds corny, but when you know, you know.

Answer 5

Lets see. They tell you they love you when your sleeping. When you are mad at them they want you to look at them in the eyes and discuss it. They offer to do everything and dont want you to do things for them because it will make them feel bad. They have accepted everything about you. They get along with all sides of your family no matter how complex. They love kids. They are still young at heart. They love to smell nice for you after work. They are the first one to say im bored lets do something.

Answer 6

it's nice to hear ur lover talking to u about ur future...marriage & evrything but until d right time comes den everything will be in d right place...stability counts, readiness physically, emotionally, financially & 101% responsibility & BIG "C"=commitment.

plan it properly...but dun expect too much especially if ur not dat ready yet...:-)

Answer 7

you just know. but if you are young enjoy life together do things and study. marriage can always wait

Answer 8

You just know and you don't have to question it that's for sure so obviously you're not

Answer 9

Honeslty you never know just let it happen or sometimes it happens

Answer 10

well if u know he loves u and u love him and yall get along great and u trust him.