What should i do if he comes back around? Give him a second chance or no.?

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What should i do if he comes back around? Give him a second chance or no.?
What should i do if he comes back around? Give him a second chance or no.?
A coworker sent me an email that I was too weird for him to be friends with because I was sending him mixed signals. We had been close for awhile and I told him it was best that we ignore each other so I can get over my crush on him since he already has a gf. Anyway during all of this, he suggested that the best way to get over him was to sleep with him. I thought he really wanted me because he kept asking if I wanted to do it. Then he told me that I should do it with someone else since he already has a gf. Of course, I felt hurt ,angry, and embarrassed since I told him things that I wanted him to do to me. A few days later I called him a dog via text since he jerked my feelings around, then I felt bad about it and wrote a letter apologizing to him. A few days ago, he looked at me like he wanted to say hi and I emailed him asking him if we could just treat each other like coworkers and say hi. He said I was too weird. I'm ignoring him like he wanted, but sometimes he looks.

Answer 1

Do NOT under ANY circumstances give him a second chance.

What you have described above is a seriously dysfunctional relationship that has the additional benefit of interfering with your career. He is jerking you around. You are obsessed with him. The treatment is not to try to be friendly, but for you to cut him out of your life as much as you can. Pursue a more healthy relationship, and maybe seek some counseling if you really can't get over him.

Answer 2

Okaaayy.......This guy says that he has a girlfriend, but he thinks that the best way for you to "get over him" would be to sleep with him? And he says that YOU'RE weird??? He sounds like a psycho, a wannabe-player, and a bit of a p*ssy. And you should never initiate any sort of romance/flirtation/whatever where you work because those things always turn out messy. Just be professional but distant and polite around him from now on.

See response from Miss A. She pretty much nails it.

Answer 3

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Hey, I remember your question from the other day.
No, don't give him any attention because remember, at the end of the day, he still has another g/f. Don't forget that, even though temptation will kick in.
You have virtues and values, too, that he doesn't respect.
Think about this, if you were to be his g/f - would he stay committed?
Obviously, he's sees you as an object and not a person.
If he respects you, he'd respect your decision. Point blank.
If he feels that he can have fun with you, then he'll keep at it.
Remember: children will do whatever it takes to get attention. Once they know that they are not going to get it, they sit down or move to something else.

One love................

Answer 4

hi, thats an interesting question! lol! 20/F wondering the same thing... holla back

Answer 5

tell your co-worker to take a hike and find somebody else