I'm interested in a guy who goes to the same college as I do. He's always nice, and friendly, but I don't know if he is interested romantically. He often hugs me (we haven't known each other that long,) or randomly strokes my wrist, and we joke around a lot with each other.
Is there anyway I can tell if he is interested, or just being flirty, or any ways I can signal my interest to him without being overly obvious about it?
2007-02-08 04:09:22 · 16 answers · asked by Alexandria 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is a great question. I was a lot like him when I was in college, stroking girls wrists and giving them hugs. The reason I did it was my strong attraction to the feminine spirit. Sometimes I was attracted to them just as a friend, but at others the attraction was stronger. Usually, when I was more attracted to a woman than just flirting, I'd be more self conscioius around her and a "touch" be it a hug or stroking hands would be a very sensitive thing to do.
At this point, he must not realize his affect and is just naturally drawn towards you. It could be friendship, general attraction, but probably, not at this point, anything more than that because he is still getting to know you.
What you should do is make it less difficult for him to give you a hug so that there is a certain amount of tension between him and you. This will allow him to subconsciously be more aware of your attractiveness to him.
Do not specifically confront him and definitely challenge him in unpredictable spurts so that he is slightly off-balanced. This will allow you to understand a different aspect about him.
Do not cater too strongly to his ego or he will think you like him and will probably take you for granted. Never volunteer too much about yourself as that will make him more curious about you.
Most importantly, be yourself and know that you are a special woman. Guys are always most attracted to the women who comes off as being comfortable in her own element.
2007-02-08 04:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Tones 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...be bold...ask him if he'd be interested in going to a concert, dinner or a show with you. Some guys can be as shy and unsure as we girls are...maybe he is wondering the same things as you are...maybe he is interested in you but fears rejection. Don't let someone special slip thru your fingers for fear of rejection...if he's not interested, the World will go on and you will know where you stand...if he IS interested then you two can start to build a relationship. Grab the bull by the horns! Good Luck!
2007-02-08 04:19:06 · answer #2 · answered by Munch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your old enough to not play games anymore. You are in college now and should be straight forward. Men don't like to guess and by the sound of it, neither do you. SO my suggestion is to ask him out, that way you are letting him know that you like him but you don't have to tell every detail why, just yet. Good luck my friend and I'm sure he will say YES!!!
2007-02-08 04:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by justwondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you already got a good friendship going with him.
Just keep on being friendly and things will happen if they are supposed to.
You could always ask him if he likes you.
But he obviously does :-)
2007-02-08 05:14:36 · answer #4 · answered by Zag 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um since your past the hand flirting try making the first move and asking him out to lunch or dinner..try a amusement park for fun...you can see what his reaction is...it might shock him and let him know that you do like him too....soooo that might be something simple you can do and learn more about him at lunch
2007-02-08 04:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by chanel_mitchell06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come up with a new restaurant or bar (depending on your age) that you really, really want to go to and tell him none of your other friends want to go with you to try it out. Give him the opportunity to say he'd go with you. And, then see if he does. If he does, big clue he likes you.
2007-02-08 04:15:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him out to lunch, if he's interested then he'll accept. However, you need to be prepared for a rejection. How many of us miss out on love because we aren't willing to stick our necks out?
2007-02-08 04:14:42 · answer #7 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him to hang out one night and see how it goes.
2007-02-08 04:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by MomOf2Girls 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to coffee. It's the classic non-date date, it can mean as much or as little as you want. Then you can continue flirting, and gauge his response.
2007-02-08 04:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
firstly one thing is clear that he likes u sure , now secondly u have to know whether he loves u , so u got to flirt a bit to know that by doing this it will give him confidence to speak to u and also , u will get to know whether he really loves u.
2007-02-08 04:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by jj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋