I met this girl...I know we love eachother, but I was too worried to go and meet her because we met on the net and I was worried about peoples opinions. She said today that she's fed up and that it's done now, forget about it. I know what we have is special, this isn't some flash in the pan, no one effects me like she does...and she's told me the same. She's too amazing to let go...should I bite the bullet...travel to see her and just ask if she wants to meet? I just can't handle all the problems I've created anymore, this is too good a thing to let go.....
2007-02-08 04:02:03 · 13 answers · asked by CJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude who cares how u meet, if u care about her u should be with her. If other people dont like the fact u met over the net then fuckum, its not their life. besides the internet is rapidly becoming the best place to meet people.
2007-02-08 04:07:05 · answer #1 · answered by That Kid Zinc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you did find that you are as in love and attracted to each other as you think you are before meeting, would you be able to arrange your lives in such a way that this could work out?
Is the monetary expense of traveling to meet her worth the risk should you discover that you don't have a mutual attraction? Have you been honest with whatever pictures you may have shared? Are you afraid the attraction may be reduced in person?
What I am getting at here is that it should not be that you worry about what other people will think. What you should worry about is how you will be able to handle the emotional risks involved. Whether or not you can handle it monetarily and what you could do to alter a long distance relationship to turn it into something more (further do you want that, you sound like you do).
You have a relationship now, whether or not you have met. It may be one of suspense or even one that is only a dream, but other than her ending it you were enjoying that. Her ending it forces you to; take the risk of rejection, make an expenditure, and possibly make the relationship into something more. So there you have it, can you handle the emotional, monetary, and life (as in reducing distance etc.,) risks? And if you can, are your lives ready for a real relationship? Her ending what you have now, leaves you nothing to loose unless there is something we don't know.
2007-02-08 04:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she ever tell you why she was fed up and wanted to let go? The fact you have never met? Or the distance? Ask her. If you love her that much and she is really an amazing person, go and see her. Don't worry about what others think. It's your life not theirs. Before you go, make sure she still wants to meet up. Also ask yourself, do you really want a long-distance relationship? Is she strong enough to handle the distance? You sound like a sweet guy and she is a lucky girl.
Good luck
2007-02-08 04:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by ce 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CJ how can you get so work up over someone you never met in person and say that you are in love with her. You never actually date her so you don't know what she really like what are her bad traits we all have them, some we can deal with and others we can't. So I don't think it love its more of infatuation. Because really love doesn't grow on the Internet, it's being with that person everyday. So go meet her and really get to know her falses and then you'll know if you truly love her. Internet is just fantasy not reality.
2007-02-08 04:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by honeybunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve already met on a spiritual level and feel so much love.
bite it. if a person can remember a 'crush' on someone from years and years ago in school as a child...do you think you as an adult can forget someone who has affected you so much?
So many forget that we have only one life and our dreams are always the same...always trying for the same dream...but with someone special. does it matter where you live as long as the dream remains the same? love is a risk, finding the right person is a risk, a leap of faith. love is real if you feel it. the practical things in life are taken care of under the same stars all over the world are they not? I love someone far away...I wish he would consider coming to me... I wish you well. god's speed to you in your decision. peace
2007-02-08 04:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For heavens sake , go meet the gal.
Alot of good marriages came off the online romances.
She is pizzed cause u chickened out on meetin her.
After u meet her and greet her and etc.
U both will either like each other or not.
U the man, make the first move like a real man.
2007-02-08 04:08:02 · answer #6 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think she is the one then why let go? Distance is negligible compared to life long repentance. Meet her and explain what kept you away from seeing her. I got my love the same way. Had I not taken the chance to meet him I would have not found myself through him. Go for it as soon as possible.
2007-02-08 04:08:49 · answer #7 · answered by mildew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand these questions. How can you love someone you haven't even met? If and when you two meet, you may have completely different perspectives. It's so different face to face than it is online. You want to meet her, then do so. She feels you are wasting her time because she wants to meet you.
2007-02-08 04:06:33 · answer #8 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fly to her and woo her. the worst that can happen is she says no, and you move on. Rejection is not something to fear, it is always a learning experience. Maybe next time you wont let fear dictate your actions.
2007-02-08 04:05:35 · answer #9 · answered by Chris R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u should both take some times apart from each other to figure out what is missing in the relationship.
2007-02-08 04:06:07 · answer #10 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋