I need help on how to help my husband. I need to inform him that all the emotions i am going through during this pregnancy is normal. I need him to understand that i have mood swings and can't help it. Is there a website that can help me or can someone please help me. I feel like he is distant to me because he doesn't understand what he needs to do or say. poor guy. i love him!
2007-02-08 03:55:37 · 15 answers · asked by stephaniedg16 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Poor man, I can relate to you, my husband had a hard time with my pregnancy also...But his mother actually helped more than any other thing, god bless her, I would have been divorced!! No kidding, but when he saw his son and held him the first time, he said it was worth it..! After two more kids, he was prepared.
2007-02-08 04:03:49 · answer #1 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Congrats Stephanie, hope pregnancy isn't being too mean to you, if it is I feel for you and wish you all the best.
Men aren't built for all this emotional stuff and they dont get where we're coming from, I have some personal issues and am down at the moment and I can only explain to the best of my ability whats going on, I have also acknowledged that I understand how hard this is for my other half and that together we'll get throught hings and he seemed to lighten up a bit.
Anyway just me trying to say all guys are the same, men are from mars women are form venus and all that...
Check this out see if it helps love, it seems to be a more USA based site and as I'm not sure which side of the world your on I dont know if it'll be any good but here it is anyway
2007-02-08 04:09:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find some books, Movies or even a friend that has went through the same thing. It takes time for men to understand women and sometimes they want ever understand us. It's okay that he doesn't understand you the way you want him to understand you. As long as he loves you and he is there for you. Don't ever think the way you feel is wrong. Remember that men will never feel the way women do. Men react to things totally different than women and it's okay. He still loves you. As us women like to share our emotions loudly, men on the other hand, tend to keep it in. As time goes by he will learn that the way you act is normal and he will begin to say.... Yes Dear. Give it some time and tell him that all you need is support through this. Even if you feel like crying just tell him, it's not him( it's just my emotions) and tell him to either give you some space or tell him to hold you close. You can get through this. May God give you strength. :)
2007-02-08 04:10:01 · answer #3 · answered by *?* Q&A Girl *?* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
OH please...If you recognize you are having mood swings, then you can help it. Saying you can't is a load of crap. You are using that as an excuse. Notice all you have to say is what HE needs to say and do...HIM...Take some ownership. When you know you are getting all moody...LEAVE THE ROOM! Don't lay all this on him. Being pregnant is not a license to be crazy.
How can all you women that have replied sit there and say - oh i can relate...I was totally nuts during my pregnancy too..hehehehehe. Its not funny. Its not acceptable. Wow. No wonder some many divorces take place.
2007-02-08 04:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by behr28 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-28 14:37:07 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would buy him the book - She's having a baby and I'm having a break down - it's really cute and gives the guys a humorous point of view to look at while also explaining what a woman goes through. My hubby is reading it right now and seems to enjoy it. Hope he comes around! Good luck!
2007-02-08 04:22:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Write out a few "I'm Sorry, must be the hormones" passes and give them to him with the knowledge that he'll give them to you during an argument. During the heat of the moment, it'll probably get both of you laughing where you can both say some needed apologies and move on with life.
2007-02-08 04:00:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try giving him a book on pregnancy. In the book, "What to Expect When You're Expecting" there is lots of information and even a section for fathers. Good luck and congrats!!!
2007-02-08 03:59:06 · answer #8 · answered by Mom of Three 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give him some pregnancy books to read or highlight some chapters in some books you would like for him to read. I don't think men will ever understand 100 % but give him the resources he needs to be fully informed. Good Luck!!
2007-02-08 03:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by LEL61719 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's hard to describe something like that to someone who will never experience it. When I was pregnant, my first three months was an emotional rollercoaster. My then husband didn't understand and went as far as calling my parents telling them that he can't control me...wtf? He got over it when my hormones stablilized. I certainly didn't get over that he actually told on me...I felt like I was five again. Just try to remember that when you are feeling that way, to try and regain control of your emotions instead of letting it burst.
2007-02-08 03:59:49 · answer #10 · answered by Groovy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋