Abortion? Is it right or wrong?

Question

Do you believe in abortion? I have mixed views on it.
I am overweight, poor, and have an 8 year old son. I am now 1 1/2 months pregnant. We are not yet married. Can't afford much at all right now. I do want a kid with my fiancee, but wasnt planning it until later on down the road. I do not want to make the wrong decision....can anyone relate to me, and please give some advice......I am scared, and do not want to make the wrong decision!

Answer 1

Absolutely Posetively WRONG!!!!!!!! If you don't want the baby put it up for addoption! It was not the baby's fault that you made a bad decision! It deserves a chance to live!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

Well, if you decide not to keep the baby then I suggest adoption. I am a biased opinion though because my husband and I are trying to adopt and understand the joy you would be giving someone. If you decide to keep the baby then the baby could bring so much joy to you! It really is up to you and what you think is best! You can't undo your decision later on, some pros though are the fact that if you place the baby and choose an open adoption you can see pictures and letters of your child as they grow and know you made a good decision (with abortion you can't do that).

Anyway, I would love to talk with you if you would like to place your child in an adoptive home. We are working with an agency and have a home study.

Answer 3

I understand that you are scared and you have feelings and thoughts of not being able to provide for this child.

But, you got pregnant, and this is the result or risk of having sex.

I do not agree with abortion. I think that it is wrong for adults or kids to conduct in adult situations and then find out that they are pregnant and want to abort an innocent child.

If anything give the child up for adoption-to a family that cannot have children. Maybe even during that time you will figure things out and might be able to turn your life around and keep that child.

Remember you made that child whether your heart and soul was into it, and abortion is killing. That baby feels everything, it is not a fetus...

You having an abortion can give you many complications and result in never being able to have another child, amongst the other complications of bleeding too much and maybe even to death.

I will pray for you, and hope that you make the right decision.

Answer 4

We'll I don't think that people have the right to let an innocent baby pay for the mistakes of the parents. So if you don't want to have a baby right now and you don't think you can afford it then there are a lot of people out there that would like to adopt a child. So maybe you should consider adoption and choose life for your baby. And a lot of people regret having an abortion after wards because they wonder what there child would have been like but people also sometimes regret adoption but at least with adoption you know that your baby is somewhere out there with a loving family. I don't think that people should have the right to take away the life of another person especially a child's life!
We'll good luck and I hope that you make the best decision you can for yourself!

Answer 5

Look into your son's eyes and ask yourself if you could ever live with out him....????....

I don't agree with abortion. Are there reasons to have one? Yes, if you were raped or your life is at risk from being pregnant. Then it could be considered, however being over weight doesn't mean any thing. Most of us are.... its how much and what risks it brings to you and your health.

What I don't understand is you knew all of this before hand and yet you still chose to sleep with your man, but didn't use something? That doesn't make sense!

It's ultimately your decision on what you should do. The advice form all of us will not help you any. You need to think about your life, and your future. We won’t be the ones raising this baby.
If you're worried about money, just remember it's not every thing. You don't need money to have a family or love.

But if that's all you're worried about then there are programs out there to help single mothers. Call you're Human services department in your county. They will tell you of programs that help mothers raise their children.

In the end you need to be the person who decides on what you're going to do. You can change your life and make it better. You can find ways of making it work, and taking different paths to get there.
You can't ever change an abortion. You'll never forget about it either.
You need to ask yourself what you want.

Good luck. I'm sure you'll do what’s right.
And just remember you're never alone!!!

Answer 6

I would say yes, get the abortion. Wait to have a kid until you're married and can afford it. Think about the child you already have. Make sure he is provided for, and work on getting your own lives in order so you can afford the second child down the road. Having this kid now would be selfish and detrimental to all of your futures.

Answer 7

Abortion is such a grey area unfortunately, please do not listen to all the posts you are going to get telling you that it is murder, or slandering you for considering abortion as an option. The fact of the matter is that if you are not ready to bring another child into the world and feel as though you are not in a place to properly care for another child then really think about what your options are.

I would strongely recommend making an appointment with a local family planning clinic, speak to an objective party such as a doctor or nurse that can provide you with all the information and answer you need to make the right decision for you. Abortion is a highly emotional and sometime traumatic event, you want to make sure you are going into the decision armed with all the knowledge and resources you need to make the nest decision for you and your family.

Good luck.

Answer 8

I feel abortion should only be used in cases of incest and rape. If you have a 8 year old son you know how babies happen. Never should abortion be used as a mannor of birth control. You should have been more carefull before you got pregnant if you weren't ready to have another child. I don't mean to be harsh or uncaring but there are many places you can get help with your pregnancy and after the child is born. Welfare, Wic, food stamps. Please consider either keeping this child or placing it for adoption. Looking at your 8yr old could you have ended that life? Think real hard as you may regret an abortion for the rest of your life.

Answer 9

I was in a very similar situation ...I was 35 and pregnant with my fiancee...whom i loved...(we are married now) but the timing wasnt right and i decided to abort. I dont regret my decision at all. When my husband and I are ready for a baby...we will have one; and not before! I control my own fertility. Good Luck to you, i know its a tough decision.

Answer 10

u wouldn't be needin to ask this question if u ad used birth control.... birth control is a lot cheaper then having a baby!!!

u cant blame the baby because your skint!!!!! have u thought about adoption, foster care..

i think that abortions are rite and wrong.... example, i don't think abortion is rite just cause u was careless to use birth control or because u can not afford it, when there is so many people out there who cant ave children for medical reason and would love the opportunity of adopting!!
A right reason to ave an abortion is if a woman was raped or a 12 year child was abused by her uncle and fell pregnant!
( i wouldn't force this person to go through with the pregnancy and ave to live day to day for nine months after wot they ave been though)

Answer 11

The only wrong decision is aborting this pregnancy. Why would you take a life away from a child for such pitty reason like you listed about. Abortion is wrong, and in Gods eyes its a sin. Think positive and everything will work out just fine, but don't make an unborn child suffer. There is alway help for single parents