I've been seeing this guy for about a month. We've gone on dates dates and we've spent the night together a few times. When we are together things are good and I feel like we have a connection but then we go days sometimes almost a week w/o any communication. Last night I sent him an email jokingly asking if he was dead since I hadn't heard from him in about 3 days. He sent me a message back telling me all the things that were keeping him so busy and now I feel kinda bad. We aren't officially a couple so maybe I'm asking for too much. We both have busy schedules but I feel like its not too much for him to send me a quick text message or an email when we can't see each other. What should I do?
2007-02-08 03:51:32 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Updated: I responded to him by just saying I hope he gets everything done that he needs to. I think I am just going to distant myself from him for awhile and see what happens.
2007-02-08 04:25:12 · update #1
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No, you're not asking for too much.
He's partially to blame for not keeping you informed of, at least, how he's doing.
After spending quality time with someone, the least you can do is give a courtesy call......even if you're tied up.
So, honestly, if it wasn't a death in the family, then in all likely hood he came back down to reality.
The first few dates are seemingly perfect, but the performance wears off and you'll see the "real" him. I have more on this subject, but not enough space.
Key point: have a talk with him and tell him that you're interested, not only in seeing him, etc.....but how he's doing. Tell him that you don't expect anything, but touch base to let you know if he's ok. He won't feel this as a threat and will open up to you more.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 04:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I totally agree that a text or email every now and then wouldn't hurt. However, since you guys aren't official, he can technically do this. It's not fair, and yeah it's pretty rude, but maybe you should give him a little space. Besides, lots of times when you just call him once or twice a week or just kind of play hard to get in a relationship, he'll see how much he misses you and he'll want the game to be back on.
2007-02-08 03:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not asking to much!! i know exactly how u feel. as u said it's not that hard to send a text or something. but the thing is u say u both have busy schedules, but I'm sure u have found time to communicate with him. but i also wonder if it's a girl thing. maybe as females we get attached a little too quickly. i hope ur not having daydreams about u and him... but to conclude it is early days let him contact u, it will kinda give u an idea how interested he is at this stage.x
2007-02-08 04:14:23 · answer #3 · answered by foxxylove20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you, he will find time to send a quick text message or email. Nobody is that busy!!!!
On the other hand, if you dont' want any more out of the relationship, don't worry about it. Just be sure you don't become the "booty call".
2007-02-08 04:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U are in the right, if he want to be with you he'll do it regardless of schedule. Sorry to bear the bad news. Us guys are very one dimensional when it comes to this kind of thing. We lie and say, things like "yeah sorry been so busy but work, sports yadda yadda" translation, I'm just doing u when there is nothing better around and as soon as I find a nice girl its dumpsville for u
2007-02-08 03:57:24 · answer #5 · answered by soccertainer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like this guy, then give him space or you are going to push him away. Men do not like women who are controlling and that's what you are doing to him. You say you aren't an official couple, so he has really no obligation to let you know where he is or what he's up to.
2007-02-08 03:56:07 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he's not officially your boyfriend, nothing. If you tell him you want a more serious relationship then things would be different, but as it stands there's not commitment in your relationship so you shouldn't expect more of him.
2007-02-08 03:57:28 · answer #7 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RELAX GIVE HIM SOME SPACE, DONT FEEL BAD JUST SAY U WERE WORRIED ABOUT HIM SINCE U GUYS HAVE NOT TALKED. MAYBE HIM IS SO BUSY THAT HE KEEPS PUTTING THIGS OFF UNTIL LATER. I HAVE DONE IT B4 PLENTY OF TIMES ( NOT RETURNING CALLS) GO AND FIND ANOTHER GUY TO CHILL WITH.
2007-02-08 03:58:45 · answer #8 · answered by glaquayl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah u arent asking for too much. just tell him how u feel bout him n maybe things will wrk out.
luck
~*precious*~
2007-02-08 03:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by ~*precious*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him kno how u really feel dnt beat around the bush wit him let kno wats sup.
2007-02-08 03:56:09 · answer #10 · answered by Pookie Mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋