Really what is this about? I mean I have going through this dilemma with a 28 year old guy for about 7 months! We clicked RIGHT from the start on both parts, had a great laugh and were both stimulating mentally and pysically. We started off as friends and then realised how much we liked each other. But this guy kept saying he really really liked me but wasn't in the frame of mind any kind of commitment right now! I mean he liked me this much that even when I was on holiday he was calling me etc as he missed me.. Numerous times I decided to move on, and he obviously was connected to me to keep coming back and to tell me how much he misses my company and someone to liaise with. So why is it that they would risk loosing you, all because they don't want to settle down right now?? He said to me "if I was looking for something, you would be the one, but i'm not in the frame of mind for anything serious it's my loss"". why do they let go of a good thing just to keep thier options OPEN?
2007-02-08 03:45:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some people are just not ready to settle down. That doesn't mean he doesn't like your company. Its very simple. Not everybody wants to be in a relationship in that point in time.
I have gone through the same phase when i was 25-29
its not about how great you are or if you don't do it for him.
Its about him not being ready to commit. It doesn't matter how fun you two are having or how much you have in common.
2007-02-08 03:52:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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Men will often sabotage a good relationship by not wanting to "commit", when it's clear they have something good.
Ego has something to do with it, but then again, he's probably been hurt before and doesn't want to invest emotionally againg for fear of that.
Either way, it doesn't help you, does it?
Point is, he's clearly defined how he feels and as long as you ACCEPT this, he can continue with his status as "keeping his options open".
This also means that if he finds someone else, you're off the hook.
Remember, he did admit that he's keeping his options open and you'll be the one hurt.
Want to go through that? Set your boundaries - not ultimatums - of where you do not want to go and where it could go. If he respects you, then he'll be a part of it.
If not, move forward without him - it's not healthy.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 12:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they don't realy know what they want.. they're afraid of committment but yet they don't wanta be alone either..
2007-02-08 11:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Mouseling 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋