I really like someone - she likes me as a 'friend' ---- I think! Help?

Question

Hi all ....... I really like a girl I have been working with recently. She's great fun, beautiful, funny, just about everything I could want in a girl.

Anyway, I've let her know how much I like her and she knows I do ....... the problem is, everytime I mention it she goes off thesubject ..... I've heard her tell someone she doesn't want to spoil 'what we've got' ..... is that just a polite brush off?

Have you ever been in a situation like this and if so, what was the outcome?

I'm not the 'shy' type and have never had any problem approaching women but this time I really don't know what to do!

Can someone please help? What should I do / say?

Thank you in advance!

Answer 1

Want the painful truth? She sees you as a WUSS! "Oh, sweety, I like you soooo much...do you like me too? huh? pretty please?"
Get the point?
Women are not attracted to weak guys, period. Unfortunately, that's where you've put yourself. Think about it for a few minutes, and be honest with yourself. You've gone out of your way to be accessible to her, and she knows it. She's told you you're sweet too, right? It's the kiss of death brother, and you took it square on the mouth. Truthfully, you've probably already blown it with this girl...so learn from it. There may be a time when she comes back into your field of vision, and you can take another shot a being a man with her. But for now, get your game together.

Answer 2

I'm in a very similar sitution right now, I've had the polite brush off a few times. Best advice I can give right now is to be yourself & continue to be friends, she obviously knows how you feel, so don't force the issue any more. Once you've established trust & a good solid friendship, she may change her mind. You can't always get what you want, but you should be content with what you have.

Answer 3

Yup, polite brush off! I'd suggest leaving the subject or else you will ruin the friendship you have. There are plenty of fish in the sea and all that!

Answer 4

you've heard her say, "she doesn't want to spoil what we've got", and i think she does want to leave it that way at this point of time. we do not know her reasons that's why maybe its best to give time for things to unfold itself. continue to remain as a good friend to her, along the way, she might see that you really have the best intentions for her. God bless!!!

Answer 5

are you sure she knows have you talked with her about your innner feelings. I sugest you tell her how you really feel if you don't have a problem talking. she may be waiting to hear it from you first.yes she may be a little scard with the two of you's being working together and all. but it don't hurt to try.

Answer 6

I say you need to talk time and sit and talk about it and why you couldnt try ,because there's always being friends if it doesnt work out the way you want it to.

Answer 7

its a polite brush off. give it up and start thinking about some other chick when bashing mr bishop.

Answer 8

nothing u can do for now as accept her decision ... stay friends with her and who knows , maybe when she gets to know u better she will change her mind about only being friends ...till then be patient and enjoy her companionship

good luck

Answer 9

i think she's made it clear she just wants to be friends so if i was you I'd leave it at that, otherwise you might push her away completely and then you wont even have her as a friend.

Answer 10

So she wants you as a friend well be her friend and get over here