Tom and I met 4 yrs ago @ a wedding.Hes a close friend of my extended family.We had instant chemistry spent all night talking.We xchanged phone calls but things never went anywhere bc we lived in different states4.months ago we found ourselves living in the same city.Sparks were still there but bc I'd just moved I wasnt prepared to be in a relationship so we became FWB. We both became attatched in 2weeks and he admitted that he was feeling more."I could see this lasting forever" Once I moved into my apt he basically moved in with me stayed the night at my place 97% of the time, bought groceries etc. Lately, Ive been suspicious and letting things bug me that didn't before.He works long hrs but he always has, he talks about his supervisor, Sue ALOT.Last night was the breaking point, he went 2 a friends house 2 pick something up said he'd be back in 10 came back 3hrs later I didnt question went to bed he didn't, I asked him 2& he agreed after a shower.Very out of character.Should I worry?
2007-02-08 03:41:42 · 13 answers · asked by Demi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
trust your own instincts they DON'T LIE!!!
2007-02-08 03:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by Art 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you shouldn't worry yet. Try and do some snooping around discretely. I have been with the same guy for 12 years and the first 7 were very bumpy. He didn't fully trust me and I didn't trust him. But if he is cheating you definitely want to know. Why should you stay with someone who doesn't fully respect and love you. You deserve that, and life is to short to be with someone who doesn't truly make you happy. If you constantly have to worry about him being faithful, it is not a happy relationship!!! Dig around, try and find some evidence that he is indeed cheating or just confront him, if he is a good man he'll tell you the truth. Hope it helps!!!!
2007-02-08 11:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by Heavy Metal Mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that he does work more and that he has more responsibility at work and has to deal with his supervisor more and they may have a sort of friendship. With the trip to his friends house maybe he intended to pick the item up and leave, but got there and got to talking and hanging out, lost track of time. I am not saying that you suspicions are not unwarranted, but if those are the only things that are wrong I would leave well enough alone until you have evidence or a better reason to feel that he's cheating.
2007-02-08 11:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be the best judge of this, after all you are the one that knows him the best. But I do tend to agree, anytime someone behaves in a way that is very out of character it would lead me to thinks something is going on. If he avoided approaching you until he showered could be an indication he wanted to wash off any evidence of him cheating. Then him not coming home until after 3 hours later would also make me wonder. My advice to you would be for you to keep your eyes and ears open. Hope what you are thinking is not true. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-08 12:02:55 · answer #4 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask questions if I were you. If he had to have a shower before coming to bed with you.. I would worry too since he was so late.
2007-02-08 11:46:52 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I would if he goes right to the shower before he got into bed with you unless he always does. Talk to him you will know if he is lying to you. Go with your gut.
2007-02-08 11:46:56 · answer #6 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are suspicious then your probly right, do you want to live with some one you dont trust ?
2007-02-08 11:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by clubchaos1965 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wake up and smell the coffee something is going on for sure-i smell scant
2007-02-08 11:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by rebelady28379 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i DONT UNDER STAND WHAT UR ASKiNG TORWARDS THE END iT iSNT VERY CLEAR BUT U SHOULD JUST ASK HiM ABOUT iT AND iTS STiLL EARLY ENOUGH TO KiCK HiS *** OUT OF UR LiFE
2007-02-08 11:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by PRiNCESS Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASK HIM WHY IN THE HELL DID IT TAKE HIM SO LONG? GIRL KEEP YO EYES OPEN AND INVESTIGATE.
2007-02-08 11:50:40 · answer #10 · answered by glaquayl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he maybe is dating her too...So you shpuld worry about it and remember you never have to trust nobody...Always trust your guts...
2007-02-08 11:48:09 · answer #11 · answered by nena_en_austin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋