My lazy19 yr. old brother still lives at home with my mom.?

Question

He is VERY lazy, doesn't work, doesn't pay her rent, mooches off her, treats her very badly, yells at her and stays up all night playing on-line video gamesand then sleeps all day. He won't lift a finger around the house, but he expects her to do everything for him. She is at her witts end, she's tried to kick him out but he won't leave.
Does anyone have any information on how to kick him out or if there is any help out there to remove him. We reside in Wisconsin and haven't been able to find any info online about situations like this.

Answer 1

There is a procedure, and yes, it is an Eviction. Since he is NOT paying any rent, not helping out, no job, not doing anything OTHER than abusing your mother ... just go to your county courthouse, the clerks office, and pick up the forms (they are usually free or low cost). Then have your Parent(s) sign the form, with his name, address, whatever on it, alomg with a reason for the eviction (Abuse of the parent, Stealing, Damage to property, Refusal to pay rent, etc). Mail it to him Certified, Return Receipt ... or ... if the county has this service, Pay the fee and let it be served on him (personally) so that you have PROOF that the document was served. Then, if he has NOT moved out in 30 days, GO TO COURT to begin the FORMAL Eviction process. (At the same time, file Trespass Orders with your local police department as well against your brother. AND ... if he IS Violent and Abusing your mother or her home/property, file Domestic Violence Charges against him and HELP her get to the Domestic Violence Center so that she can have help filing A Restraining Order against your brother as well).

In the meantime, offer to go with your Mother to counseling, because she is Co-Dependent, and allowing HIM to ABUSE her by continuing on with his irresponsible behaviors.

The OTHER way to do this is IF your brother goes out at any time for a few hours, then HELP your mother change all the LOCKS on the home (for doors that he has a key -- this could be a couple of hundred dollars), and Have his 'things' boxed up and waiting outside on the porch. Then when he returns, call the police and have them deal with the Trespassing Complaint.

YOUR mother has MY SYMPATHIES. I've had to deal with this (as a Long Term Single Parent) with a child as well ... and yes, did file the Trespass Orders too. (but ... to make a long story short, this one WILLINGLY Helped my Ex Burglarize my Home in August 2006 -- and yes, Left EVIDENCE in the home it was BOTH of them -- I filed the Police Report and am now waiting for the slower than molasses run of the wheels of 'justice' to turn .. and they are definitely SLOW indeed).

Answer 2

My opinion is that he has no motivation to do anything... a lot of teenagers get like that. Did he finish school? If he didn't maybe you could try to persuade him to try and further his educataion to increase his chances of getting meaningful employment, or at least try finding a job to give him some purpose in his days. His lashing out at your ma is simply a manifestation of his own frustration. He needs to be in the company of some influential people, and in a more stimulating environment. Try to give hm a nudge in the right direction, and when he starts doing something that he can derive some satisfaction from, he'll start to take control of himself and things will get better for everyone involved.

Don't be mad at him... he obviously could do with some support and advice of sorts... he might be depressed.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, he is an adult and she may have to go through the eviction process to get him out of her home. In peace time, the military would be an option, but.....See if he can rent a room from someone he is not related to, or help him get started in a small apartment of his own. Once he is out, do not let him back in.

Answer 4

He is going thru that stage, after highschool like alot of em do.
Just be patient, he will soon get a job and wake up.
Most boys do this if they are not off to college.
Dont be mean to him, just be patient and get along, cause
one day he will be married and u will wish he visited more.
Dont throw him on the street.
He is your blood kin, think positive and just love your brother.

Answer 5

Tell him he has 1 week to find a job or the cops will remove him & he can go to the shelter until he decides to get a life for himself.Its called tough love.Doesnt he realize that when he has his own place,,he just may be happier to have become a man? lol.

Answer 6

She packs up his clothes, changes the locks and leaves his suff outside.
This cold weather will soon be over.
I don't think you can put anyone out in the cold..
tell him to go to a shelter....you help her get his stuff together and have a police escort, if you are expecting trouble ....they will get him out and there will be done peacefully.
She must change the locks,her phone number.......

Answer 7

Kick him out again. If he refuses to leave then call the police and have them take care of your brother. I know that he's your brother and you prolly don't want to do that, but it's the only thing that you can do if he refuses to leave your mother's house.

Answer 8

Your mother has to stand up to him until then she will have to deal with this situation. Have her call the cops on him. I understand that for a mother that this is very difficult because you don't want your children to dislike you, but after all it is for his best interest, I'm sure she doesn't want him to be a bum forever!

Answer 9

well i can feel your pain i have a 29 year old lazy slob brother still at home!



i mean its hard to say with this situation - what can you do ? you dont want to put him on the streets but yet you want him out! umm i dont know honestly im sorry this is a hard situation.

Answer 10

Simple , Kick his lazy A** out the door.