My son is eleven in a couple of months and thinks its unfair that some of his friends - same age - are allowed out till eight. I can only assume their parent's care about them too much and probably don't want them in the house till then. I also told my son if it was light at eight he would also be allowed out till then.
2007-02-08 03:29:19 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sue you sound like a really good mum to me. Keep up the good job.x
2007-02-08 04:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not being over protective. You are being a good parent. There are things that kids can get into if they are out too late. He's only going to be 11, so why does he need to stay out until 8:00 anyway. When I was 11 I was in the house when the street lights came on.
2007-02-08 12:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jaime A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I'm the same my soon to be 11 year old is only allowed out until supper time (6) then he has to come in and get his food do home work have a shower and get to bed,He stays out after 8 in the summer when it's light and in this cold weather my son refuses to wrap up warm so it's for his own good.
2007-02-08 12:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Mea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your right. Show him all these answers and it may make him realise how fortunate he is to have a loving and sensible mum. My family are grown up now but by about 11 it is easy to see things from their point of view and question why they should be in perhaps at the same time as those younger and argue they are sensible. I used to tell them truthfully it is not that I didn't trust them but it was those out there I didn't trust. Only exception being if he is with a responsible adult somewhere and you have spoken with that adult knowing this person will see him right home at an agreed time. Good luck, it's not easy I know but he will thank you for it in the future.
2007-02-08 18:25:15 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My rule is, no matter the time, when the street lights come on, my son comes in. period. Also, along the same vein, he kept a walkie talkie with him at all times, you see - he really wanted a cell phone and the only way I could think of to get him to prove to me that he could handle the responsibility, was to treat a walkie talkie well for 6 months...that means, charge the set, make sure one of his parents had one when he was heading out, and he checked in regularly and answered it. He succeeded, and proved he could have a cell phone. That helped me feel better too. But still, street lights on, children come in. Hang in there, the decisions only get tougher as they get older, better do some 'bud nippin' now, because there are a lot of parents out there who seem content to just let their children roam! I've designated my house as the 'hang out' house, so that I can get to know my son's friends. Just keep plenty of pizza rolls and Capri Sun's in the house and keep a light attitude, and you'll be amazed at how easy it can be. Good luck, and kudos to you for being an active parent!
2007-02-08 11:39:27 · answer #5 · answered by Zygai 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not over protective, no, but can you remember when that was you? You probably thought your mum was interfering, killjoy etc etc and now it's your turn.
You are quite right to set limits for your son in this way. What do kids of that age get up to in the dark until 8pm? Someone once said to me raising kids is like trying to grow a tree. If you want it to grow straight and tall, you must start to set boundaries when it is a little sapling. It's no good suddenly deciding when the tree is 14 years old and all bent and crooked that you wanted it to be straight. Then it is too late.
I say to my kids in this situation, 'What they get up to is between them and their mothers but I am your mother and as such am responsible for your behaviour and welfare'. But it is hard, I know. Are there any clubs that he could join like karate or sea cadets or something that will give him something else to think about?
2007-02-08 11:38:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son turned eleven in January and i had the same problem,i told him in summer time he could stay out later,at the moment he comes in at 8-30 and weekends he comes in at nine,he's not on the streets till that time tho,his friends all come in ours or they'll go to other friends houses then i can walk them all home or the other parents will do the same
2007-02-08 11:55:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe just a little bit over protective why not tell him he can stay out till eight but he has to stay near the house on the street for example. hes almost 11 and it wont be long befoe hes at secondary school and he feels embarrassed when he has to say to his mates that he has to go home earlier than they all do.
2007-02-08 11:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your son is within a friends house that you agree to him being at and you can pick him up at 8pm then I think I would agree to that. However, if he was simply roaming the streets, then no - he would be at home. Although, I would certainly allow him to have friends around until 8ish but make sure they were collected.
2007-02-08 13:23:39 · answer #9 · answered by deep in thought 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Not at all, his till a kid, even if the other childrens parent's let thier kids be out that late, they are not being good parent's. Your doing the right thing
2007-02-08 20:32:14 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell my children when they say something like well "Johns" mom lets him stay out ......I am not "Johns" mom I am your mom are you not sooooo lucky LOL
I do have times I did let them stay out after dark but it was in front of the house where i could see and they were playing basketball or football and it was not a school night
Children with to much time on their hands get into trouble....add dark/night to it ........nope not mine unless structured and close
2007-02-08 13:01:48 · answer #11 · answered by dreamingone39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋