Im 26 years old and have one child aged 6 with adhd! Just found out that im 9 weeks pregnant! part of me wants to keep it as i know the baby might not have adhd but im worried bout terminating as i have to be put to sleep (op) in hospital! I was in a violent relationship for 6 years which i came out of! and i have met someone else who is 22 but he has only been living with me since august 2006! I wanted aims in life, im scared that i could end up on my own with 2 kids as i dont much time to myself as my son also has learning difficulties and i dont have no friends or family around (have my dad but he wont agree with me having baby) Ive moved around alot and am waiting to move again! I do have a heart and have cried but im so unsure?
2007-02-08 03:26:41 · 10 answers · asked by playgirl_bena 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Adoption would be an option. A loving family would be the greatest gift you could give to your baby. There are so many people who want children and cannot have them. Think about it. You could even do an open adoption where you still see the child.
2007-02-08 03:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At nine weeks, your baby has a beating heart, recordable brain waves, tiny fingers and toes, and all her organs. She can suck her thumb and will grasp an object placed in her palm. If her palm is pricked, she will open her mouth and pull her hand away. You can see photos of what your baby looks like right now here:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm
and read about her ability to feel pain:
http://www.advocatesfortheinnocent.com/fetalpain.html
Here are photos and video of aborted babies at 9 weeks (yes, they are difficult to look at, but you need to see the truth):
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html
Abortion is very dangerous for you as well:
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm
You can read stories from women who have aborted here:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm
Please remember that none of the circumstances of your life are your baby's fault. Your baby is innocent and does not deserve to die. I think you know this. If you wouldn't let anyone hurt your born child, you shouldn't let anyone hurt the baby inside you, your little boy's brother or sister. He or she is just as much your child and is depending on you for protection.
Even if the baby did have adhd, would that be a good reason to kill him or her? You don't wish your son was dead, do you? I know you are feeling emotional and scared right now, especially because your hormones are a little crazy, but you need to concentrate on protecting your baby. Listen to your maternal instincts. Please don't do something you will regret the rest of your life.
If you need free help, Free, please go to a crisis pregnancy center. They can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; a free ultrasound (at many centers); free maternity and baby supplies; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one near you by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting:
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
2007-02-09 14:27:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The decision is your alone, and should be made after considering all options. I am pro adoption!!!! You could contact an attorney who works with childless couples. In these cases, the couple usually pay for medical expenses and so on. You would be giving a wonderful gift!!! Think about it. Best of Luck to you
2007-02-08 03:50:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every baby is a gift from God. Rather than murdering your own child, how about giving it up for adoption? There are many loving couples out there that wait on adoption lists for years to adopt a newborn baby. Your baby would be so loved and cherished!!
2007-02-08 03:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Dee Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see each child as a blessing. Who knows how they will change the world or who they will help?
I can only imagine that your situation is very difficult. It must have been very hard to leave your previous relationship. Whether or not you realize it, that took a lot of courage. You don't seem very sure of the relationship you have now and that must be hard too.
We don't know what the future holds. I believe you are strong enough to meet whatever comes.
2007-02-08 03:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by Kari 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really wish I could help you.... Is ur present bf okay with ur son? if so then he may not mind u being pregnant. Have faith! and if ur guy isnt okay with u being pregnant then dump him! he aint worth it if he's not gonna be there for u!.. If u two do break up n ur father is against the child then it would be best if u abort the child. I know it hurts, but do you really want to give ur child a miserable life? (being without a father and all, seeing u work day and night to support them and if he's suffering, then another bad point) seek advice! this is all i cud say!
2007-02-08 03:48:21 · answer #6 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This decision is a very personal one. One you must decide with input from the baby's father and your family (if they are involved in your life and you wish to ask for their input).
2007-02-08 03:41:22 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babies are gifts. Every single one of them are different and life changing. You should take your gift with pride and make the best out of it. Even if you are left on your own, your kids are your life. Hang in there.
2007-02-08 03:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to get reed of ze babee? Eet is not dying, and eet is not a bad babee. So you should keep ze babee. Okey Dokey?
2007-02-08 03:35:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't do anything that you could regret. there are no undos in life.
2007-02-08 03:38:37 · answer #10 · answered by pas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋