A girl with a very nice profile emailed me and said some very nice things. Also, that she'd like to get to know me. At the last section towards the bottom, part of her paragraph says, "I am also pretty independent and would like a guy that is comfortable with that." How does a girl tend to behave when she says this?
2007-02-08 03:24:20 · 12 answers · asked by justellemJimsaidhello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
find out for your self go on a date with her....
2007-02-08 03:28:53 · answer #1 · answered by cyndi m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's always a chance I'm wrong but it sounds like she is telling you this because she's had a boyfriend in the past who had problems with her being "independent".
I would assume that she is the kind of girl who makes enough money to pay her own way and that she doesn't need other people to constantly do things for her. For example: if she has a broken dryer she'll call whomever the warranty is under to fix it rather than calling her dad (or boyfriend) and asking him what to do. It could also mean that she likes having time to herself and there may be nights that you want to hang out and she just wants to be alone.
The best thing to do is be straight forward and ask her what she means by this. It's always better to ask than assume because for all you know, she could either be an Alpha femaleor just a hoe who needs an excuse to hang out with other guys.
2007-02-08 11:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being independent is a good thing. She is trying to tell you is that she is her own person, self reliant, not dependent, secure with herself. A lot of guys are not comfortable with a girl who is independent because her self assurance tends to make a guy feel inadequate. A secure mature guy would value and admire a women's independence.
2007-02-08 11:44:32 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she probably likes to make her own decisions about things and not be told how she should be. She is letting you know that she doesn't need you to lead her around by the hand and guide her through life. She could be very opionated also. I would say that she just wants you to know that there is no way she will be dominating all your time. She will want to do things with her friends or alone if she is so inclined. She probably wouldn't be very clingy either.
2007-02-08 11:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am only guessing, but I think she is one who will make choices for herself and not depend on anyone Else's input. This doesn't mean she won't consider the feelings of others in the course of making those decisions. She sounds like she knows what she wants and won't rely on anything short of her own strengths to achieve these wants. She won't follow orders, so don't even think about it! I don't think ultimatums are good for communications with her either. Just be honest, straight forward and real with this one. Independence is worth its weight in gold!
2007-02-08 11:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by froggsfriend 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the type of woman that any man would want. She of course wants love and to be loved, but she is strong enough to go at it alone and take care of herself if need be. I hate needy, clingy women. This sounds like a strong, secure woman. Go for it but take your time. Words are just words so the real person may be different. Good luck
2007-02-08 14:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like me. People who are independent like to do things on their own.
They don't like being bossed around or have someone try to run their life.
They want to be loved and love someone in return, but they don't want someone going alright well you can't hang out with this person because.
Etc...
2007-02-08 11:29:09 · answer #7 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-dont tell her where to go
-dont tell her what to do
-dont tell her WHO to hang with
-dont get attitudes about her friends
-dont get jealous
-but dont try to make her jealous
-she doesnt NEED you, she WANTS you
Annnd in the long run thats the best kind of girl. I give the respect i get and im pretty independent myself. <3
2007-02-08 11:55:52 · answer #8 · answered by PRiNCESS Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she wants to date but she prizes her own space. In other words, you can't just come over when ever you feel like it. She wants you to man enough to accept her for who she is. At least she is telling you like it is up front. No games.
2007-02-08 11:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Jen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess that she doesn't want someone who is too clingy or needy -- i.e: she has her own life & own friends and she doesn't want to spend all of her free time with just you.
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Come to think of it, usually a person who has to TELL you that she is strong & independent usually isn't (especally if she says it a lot -- she is trying to convince herself, not you).
2007-02-08 11:28:51 · answer #10 · answered by Randy G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just the kind of girl you want. Someone who wants a relationship but also want to be herself. Go for it dude.
2007-02-08 11:30:23 · answer #11 · answered by Mike S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋