I know that this isn't the etiquette forum but I just wanted some parents opinions....
My son will be celebrating his 1st birthday next month and I would like to put gift suggestions on his invitations, ie. Elliot wears size 18 months and needs spring and summer clothes. Also, we'd prefer toys toys that encourage creativity and learning like blocks, puzzles and pretend household items....not in those exact words. Partially I am being selfish by trying to save money on clothes and I feel like he has enough toys already, but on the other hand I'm trying to nurture his creative side by suggesting toys that I feel would be beneficial. I just don't want him to have a ton of talking, battery operated toys, he got enough of those for Christmas. My sister does this on her invitations because in our family we are all about helping one another but just thinking about it, I can hear my in-laws talking about me. So, any suggestions?
2007-02-08 03:20:04 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
TACKY!!! My friend I know where you are coming from... but it's tacky.... and rude.
I am sure some of folks will ask you what he needs. Like grandparents aunts and uncles.
If you need money to buy these things, then invite less people to the party....
If you still don't want to take my advice. Put your energy into writing a cute poem or a note in his voice like.
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Too excited to be turning One. What a year has this been!
I am growing bigger by the day and wearing size 18 months already. What can I say I am a big boy?
I like to play with toys that are full of color and sing with Mommy and Daddy.
It would be great if we could catch up soon, so come on by to celebrate the Big One!
2007-02-08 03:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by joy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it. If someone wants to get him clothes, they will call you and ask his size. Also if they are getting them a toy, most things out there in that age group are educational. It helps alot to pick out a themed invitation.. like ABC's and 123's this helps them see that you are interested in educational items. If you choose Blue or say Thomas the choo choo.. that would make me think.. oh they like that and I would choose a toy to match the party. It wouldn't hurt to mention to family members that clothes for summer would be appreciated and happen to mention the size.. but just suggest not including it on an invite. Good luck.
2007-02-08 03:35:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey---that's tacky tacky tacky. If you think everyone else will be getting her toys, then you forgo the toys and buy her clothes.
Of course, if anyone asks you for gift ideas, you can always suggest clothes and give her size or suggest a particular toy that is not too expensive.
2007-02-08 05:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by kathylouisehall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what you put on the invites people will buy him what they want to. My daughter had just gotten a whole new wardrobe of clothes and i told everyone that she doesn't need clothes and she really doesn't play with toys because she is happier playing with pots and pans that and she likes books even though she can't read everyone bought her toys and she never touched them. Good Luck And Happy First Birthday To Your Son!!!
2007-02-08 03:54:27 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ Ash ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is tacky. Don't do it. Some of my family would deliberatly disobey those instructions and do the exact opposite.
Most people will give you a receipt and you can quietly take things back without offending anyone.
If someone calls, you can suggest presents but I would not list them on the invite.
2007-02-08 03:54:26 · answer #5 · answered by Culture Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this in one of the advice colums (Dear Abby I think), and she says that it is OK to tell people if they ask, but not etiquettly correct to put it ON the invitation. You can always return things you don't like anyway... most people get gift reciepts now a days.
2007-02-08 03:31:46 · answer #6 · answered by princessn1984 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you're only inviting family.. and close friends.. I don't see a problem with mentioning the size the baby wears on the invitations.. it'll elminate having to return things..
If you are inviting people who aren't as close.. I'd leave it off their invites..
As for your inlaws..
They'll probably talk about you no matter what..
Inlaws usually do.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 03:28:07 · answer #7 · answered by michele 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very tacky to suggest gift ideas on the invitation. Your reasons sound very selfish, I'm sorry to say. Let people bring what they want, it's a gift for your son, it's not about you.
2007-02-08 07:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by WREAGLE 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe if your family doesn't mind, put it on the ones that are going to them. But, you obviously already know what your inlaws will think, so don't put it on theirs, and wait till they ask you what he needs. If that doesn't happen, just be lucky that he has loving people in his life that buy him gifts!
2007-02-08 03:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by eaglesnest1119 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like it when people give me lists of what to buy your children. I think it's rude. A gift is a gift and I don't think you should control it.
I think you should wait until someone asks you for suggestions, then by all means give them ideas.
2007-02-08 03:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋