What do you think I should do?

Question

So, my boyfried and I have been dating for a while now and I will admit that we both have had our ups and downs. Lying and whatnot, but thats was agreed to all be in the past. Smoking was an issue last December, and was promised to me that he would quit. I caught him lying to me about it several times, and he has promised me that it wouldnt happen again. i have realized that smoking is a hard habbit to stop, so I have givien him the benefit of the doubt, but what hurts is the lying. Earlier this week, I found a pack in his jaket, and was surprised to see them in there because he said that he would make a better effort to quit. well, I found yet another pack in his jacket today, and what Im really pissed about its that he lied to me about them. i have told him over and over that smoking isnt the issue now, its that you lie to me, but he doesnt seem to get it. I noticed that some money that was left on the table was missing, and he said he took it just in case he needed it he lied again

and bought another pack. Now when i try to confront him with all this lying, he starts to bring up the past. To me it seems like he doesnt want to fess up to his wrong doings, but its getting harder to trust him now bacause of all this.....

Answer 1

Time to cut and run hon.

No healthy relationship can survive without trust and you two clearly don't have it.

If he is so willing to lie to you about cigs what about other women? money? drugs?? And don't tell me that "he would never"........just because you don't see him do it doesn't mean that he doesn’t.

You need to find someone that respects you and your relationship enough not to lie to you. And you also need to remember that it's a 2-way street.....if you do not expect someone to lie to you then you do not have the right to lie to them... (I assumed that since he was bringing up the past you must have some dirt on you too?)

If you really put the past in the past then it should not be brought up in every fight....otherwise you haven't really buried the hatchet, just put it on a shelf in case you need to use it again.

Trust is very hard to get back and relationships are not "50/50".....they are "100/100".....each person has to give !00% or it won't work.

Good Luck!

Answer 2

Honestly, I would stay away from Apple and get a Samsung Galaxy S4. More powerful than the iPhone, has a 13 Megapixel versus an 8 Megapixel camera, and this will be the best for you, has a removable back to not just have a removable battery, but also to add a Micro SD card for storage up to 64GB (you won't have to worry about running out of storage for a long time)! Everyone says to get an iPhone because it "just works" or because it is what everyone else has. However, the Galaxy has the iPhone beat, including a full HD 1080p 5 inch display. It also has a larger battery! Take a look into it! :)