I live with my mother and 8 yr old sis. i'm not close 2 my mother and i have no interest to be close. my father and i lost contact when i was 9 and i got in touch with him almost 2 yrs now. along with finding my father i started communicating with my two aunts who are young by the way one is 6 yrs older than me and the other is 10. in the beginning one of them would call me constatnly and i mean everyday and i felt close to her but not too long ago i asked her to call me the next day and she told me that she was gonna 4get. seeing how she use to call so often hearing that really caught me off gaurd. regardless i phoned her a few days later and she never returned my call and that was 2 mnths ago so i decided to just keep my distance with he. the other one is really affectionate. she's the 1st person to tell me they love me so openly and she even got me to open up 2 her emotionally cause i've been telling her i love her like it's nothing before i couldn't even form the sentence but...
2007-02-08 02:58:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she has a really active social life consisting of two bestfriends and guys that she "talks" to. she goes clubbing and all that stuff. seeing that i don't live in the same state as her or my other aunt the phone is all i have with them (i met them once) one minute i feel close 2 her and the next i just pull away because she does things that just make me feel like i have 2 try and fit in her life and i hate it. she ignored phone calls frm me recently and weeks later called me which i felt hurt about. she originally told me that she wanted 2 be my bestfriend! she wants 2 b close 2 me but i feel like she's pushing me away unitentionally at the same time. the other side is i have a bestfriend but other than my bestfriend i wish i had someone and it doesn't have 2 be romantic at all. my bestfriend has her boyfriend so when they have pblms i tell her at least u have someone i don't. i wish i had someone to call me everyday and vice versa. i wish someone would send me letters and cards....
2007-02-08 03:06:28 · update #1
for no reason but just to do it. even though i have a bestfriend i just wish i felt close to someone outside of our friendship. sometimes it hits me really hard at times. i feel like knowing my aunts made me think i was going to have a closeness with one of them some time or a nother and they have ther lives while i'm just trying 2 fit in. i just feel worse now that i have a few realtives it eats at me more that i have a few more ppl in my live but i'm really not that much happier i just feel really lonely...
2007-02-08 03:21:13 · update #2
You need to find happiness with yourself. Do not expect others to fill the void for you. It is not their responsibility to make you feel anything. You have to feel that on your own. You have to control your own emotions. Find what makes you happy girl. I enjoy taking long hot baths, reading a good book, sleeping in. I enjoy my time in meditation and devotions. I love doing things for others without letting them know it was me. I love getting my hair done and once and a while I get a massage. I love to tip at restauraunts. I love to fill up parking meters anonymously. Those things make me happy. So when I spend time with friends I am not relying on them to fill up my life. It is an unfair thing to put on someone. I have been where you are and I know that it is a lonely place. Spend some time on you. Get some councilling. Find out what really makes you happy. Have a lovely day!
2007-02-08 03:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are not good at communicating. Keep trying to make contact because of course it's important to you and by all means tell those how they are making you feel. They may not have even thought about it. people can be shallow and only think of themselves. Make your voice heard.
2007-02-12 01:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by #1 saints fan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all are alone in this world till the time we don't rely on our own self or if we are not self sufficient.
Think if you were a child or all those thing you could not do in your childhood, up grade them a little. You'll find that you don't have time.
Try and enjoy..........
With best wishes.........
2007-02-08 12:33:42 · answer #3 · answered by Atif Mirza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you have some emotional issues stemming from parental relationships or lack thereof. I suggest seeing a counselor that will help you discuss these issues in a non-biased way. Good luck.
2007-02-08 11:08:02 · answer #4 · answered by me! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seek professional help.
third parties that are not involved in your situation.
things will get better, just take the initiative to improve your own life, and if need be move on.
2007-02-08 11:01:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will feel alone if u withdraw yourself from other people specially from ur loved ones try to reach out specially to your mom it might be a beginning of a wonderful relationship no mother can forsake her child.you have to be at peace with urself to be able to have a great relationship with people.
2007-02-08 11:12:47 · answer #6 · answered by jing v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, get a hobby and make some friends.
2007-02-08 11:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋