Two in particular call often and obviously still have feelings for him. One of them lives in the same city and "drops by" unexpectedly (never when I'm with him). He also doesn't answer their calls when I'm around. I've never been the type to tell someone they can't be friends with their exes, but it always come back to bite me. I actually caught a past one sleeping with his ex after he swore up and down they were just friends. I don't want to be the crazy jealous girlfriend.
2007-02-08 02:57:53 · 20 answers · asked by Gina A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Time you got some guy friends.
2007-02-08 03:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't ignore her, that doesn't work. At least it didn't for me. Communication is always the best option. Skype is a useful tool. My suggestion would be to find another girl at college. Go ahead and find out what you really like in a girl. Be single for a while, it's a ball.
2016-05-24 06:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never got that. I've never remained friend with any of my exes because most of them turned out to be psychos. The few who I remained cordial with were well after our relationship - like years - so there was really no sparks whatsoever. Recent relationships are a different beast altogether. I don't think it's a good idea to remain in contact with people you dated recently. There's still too much baggage left. And by you stating that they still have feelings for him is a definite red flag. I wouldn't trust it personally. They broke up. There's really nothing else to talk about really. I mean, what are they discussing anyways. Your relationship? Bad business if you ask me. I'd put a stop to it or at least insist on meeting them to clear the air of any thoughts in their minds that there's still a chance.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 03:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would not be ok with that situation. The reason being that they show up unexpected and when you are not around and he doesn't answer calls when your are around. Sounds fishy to me..........speak to him tell him how you feel and let him know you don't mind him having contact with his ex but, they should know about you and give you that respect to not show up unexpected or he should make you feel secure in the relationship by answering the call even if you are there and letting them know they can't just show up whenever they want.
2007-02-08 03:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Stac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him that you are not comfortable with the ex just dropping in, especially when you are not there. He should understand this. I have the same problem so I am going to check all answers you get.
2007-02-08 03:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you must be going thru. Exes can never be friends, by the way. However, you should know that when men are commited and love their partners, they would never think of ruining it by messing with an ex. So if your man is with you and loves you, you shouldn't worry about him getting sucked into their madness.
You should talk to your man about the worries you are having. He will surely understand if you tell him of your past experience with this one.
Good luck and don't worry about it gurl. :-)
2007-02-08 03:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by Yvonne Mystic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know where you're comming from, my ex ended up getting his ex pregnant while i was pregnant with our second child together. it's really difficult to find trust in that situation, especially when you've been screwed over before in that department. just explain your feelings to your boyfriend, and try to make an agreement that he won't spend any alone time with his exes, only when there's a group of people. i mean, i'm friends with a few of my exes, but i'm not spending any alone time with them.
2007-02-08 03:04:03 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me, he has to cut these off right now, I would be plenty concern about these relationships. Is he sleeping with them or not, this is a question you have to ask him. You are not being jealous you are just looking out for yourself so you don't go stone crazy!!!
2007-02-08 03:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just talk to him about it . I understand him wanting to be friends with his exes but there is a limit. Falling asleep together is pretty intimate behavior, so I would keep a close eye on his actions. If he seems to enjoy spending more time with them than you, I suggest you rethink your relationship.
2007-02-08 03:03:46 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him about your past experience, and that it makes you nervous because of it. If you had been choked by a past boyfriend oyu would be nervous about him puting his hand on your neck right? So just be honest and tell him that you aren't comfortable with him being close with his ex's like that.
2007-02-08 03:01:22 · answer #10 · answered by Chris R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person cannot be close with his/her ex and have a meaningful relationship with someone else without it causing major problems. Period.
2007-02-08 03:02:25 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋