How can you fix an argument problem?

Question

In a relationshop betweena guy and a girl

Answer 1

talk it out and have make up sex afterwards :) Its great!!!

Answer 2

By this, I am assuming you mean that the two of you argue too much, correct!? My husband and I have a problem with this also. During counseling we were given several ways to try to correct the problem.
ONE: take 20 minutes each night to discuss the problems from that day. Set a timer, and when the time us up, it's done! No more discussion. Leave it alone and let it go.
TWO: Don't continue to drag up the past problems. Leave them in the past. For example, if you are using the timer for 20 minutes, that 20 minutes can't be spent discussing something from yesterday. Because yesterday is over and you have to move on!
THREE: Don't fight/argue dirty! If you are discussing something, make an effort to not fight dirty, call names, or call someone out for their downfalls. Only discuss the current situation at hand, nothing else!
Four: Don't generalize things. For example, if she/he is hogging the remote control, instead of saying "You ALWAYS take the remote", try "I really don't like it when you won't let me have the remote". Because it isn't true when you generalize. There is NO way that he ALWAYS 100% of the time hogs the remote. At some point you have the remote to use!
Five: Don't talk negatively or attacking! Using strong words like HATE, NEVER, ALWAYS, etc, are strong words that bring someones defenses up and will always lead to an argument. Try using feelings to describe things, don't attack, be honest but don't be on the attack with your words. Remember that you can't use your words as weapons, because words can even hurt more than a physical hit can!
SIX: Make an effort to praise your partner for things they do that you enjoy, let the other less desirable things go without calling them on it. You will find that your partner, like a child, will enjoy the positive praise and find themselves doing the right thing, just to hear the praise from you. They will soon try to do good so much that the bad will begin to fade!
Finally, learn to let things go that really don't matter! Before starting a discussion/argument, take 5 minutes to think about the problem. If you can honestly say that this problem will still be an issue, if let undiscussed, a week from now, a month from now, or a year from now, then discuss it with your partner. If you decide it really isn't that important and you won't still be bothered by it in a week, then let it go. Don't say anything! Save yourself the argument and the time and pain associated with arguing!
Good luck! Please realize, this doesn't happen overnight, it's not a quick easy fix. It's something that both people have to work at, but it can be a changed habit!

Answer 3

Only read further if you really want the answer.

Submit. What ever she says goes, so long as it's not immoral or illegal. You think this sounds like a pansy method? Jesus Christ, the greatest barbarian who ever lived, did it for the church. In fact, he died to himself completely.

What you should know it, the end result is complete love and adoration from her and a growth in the realtionship. I've seen this time and again.

Good luck! It's not going to be easy!

Answer 4

Don't take sides and let each person air out their problems. Maybe they will understand what is bothering the other person and can work on that or if not they could just go their separate ways.

Answer 5

listen to each other and be honest. talk it out and be ready to listen even if you don't want to hear it.

Answer 6

You talk it out.

Answer 7

just say two words... 'yes, dear...'

Answer 8

sex