well i liked this guy for a few months and he knew that i liked him, he would tell me that he loved me and stuff like that. but he treated me awful. like he would talk to me one day, best in the world, but the next he would act like he hated me and didnt want to talk. but now we really dont speak with each other. but i have been talkin to his best friend a lot lately, and i am fallin for him, do you think that is a bad idea.......
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2007-02-08 02:51:39 · 26 answers · asked by pretty_grl_321 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
his friend treats me great, he is a really good person to talk to, and i can tell him anything and he understands.hes wonderful. i just dont wanna cause nothin betweent the two
2007-02-08 02:57:50 · update #1
Forget about him life has many surprises you never know what can happen. Enjoy life it is to short, no time to be sad. Good luck!
2007-02-08 02:56:25 · answer #1 · answered by lencic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, personally, I do not think it's a bad idea to fall for his friend. Because he did you ditry.. and you know what they say.. what goes around, comes back around.
You really liked him, and I'm sure you were good to him. And he took that for granted by treating you like that. He played with your emotions, and that is hurtful. How can he tell you he loved you, and then totally blow you off the next time?
If you guys didn't have an official relationship, it is perfectly ok to start liking his friend. Just make sure that his friend is not the same type of guy that this one was. Because you don't want to go through that again. Don't fall for him too fast, get to know him, and his personality.. so that you are sure he won't treat you like the other did. Be careful. Don't jump into it. Take it slow, and get to know him first.
But yeah, I don't think it's a bad idea. It'll make the one guy realize he shouldn't have treated you like that, because he missed out on a good girl, but ohwell, because now his friend's making the best of it. Too bad, he can just be jealous. lol
Good Luck!
I am just concerned though, that this guy may turn out to be like the other guy, so for the sake of getting hurt again, just get to know him first.
2007-02-08 11:02:04 · answer #2 · answered by Loves It<3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is key in all relationships - even one's you're not in. Clearly, the first guy you were seeing needs to grow up a bit and find stability within himself. Considering his immaturity, he may try to make things difficult for you and his friend to get better acquainted. I would voice your concerns to the new guy and explain that you don't want to come in between their friendship, and why you came to feel how you do. He probably knows his friend pretty well and can give you some insight on whether it's a good idea to pursue things further. Remember - communicate and don't play games.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 10:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by Sierra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely drop him. NO ONE deserves to be treated like that and as woman sometimes we allow it. As far as the friend thing, it could cause some serious problems and put you in more drama than you expect. All that glitters is not gold. This could be a plot that they have going between the two. The "good guy" "bad guy" scenario. Just be careful.
2007-02-08 10:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by anonymiss82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what one has to do with the other but the only risk I see in dating his friend is that the old bf will talk smack about you to him. And since he sounds unstable anyway, he might just freak and make life very difficult for the two of you to know each other without meddling...but everyone loves the romance dance at your age right? This one isn't the forever one, you're all too young. Just make sure you're treated with compassion, love and integrity, darlin'.
2007-02-08 10:56:05 · answer #5 · answered by smecky809042003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That guy sounds like an immature asshole who was either confused or just liked the attention you would give him. As for his best friend ... I don't see a problem with that. Normally you might have to respect the other guy's feelings, but if he didn't respect you than screw that. It's really the friends dilemma ... are you worth possibly ruining a friendship over? So it's his decision, not yours.
2007-02-08 10:57:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no at all girl. if that guy obviously liked you he would have been with you still. he lost out so go for it. i think its pretty funny that you are fallin for his best friend the same thing happened to me and i am with my man for over 4 yrs now and i was originally supposed to be with his friend but i didnt like him. And i love my man alot so go for it , he could be the one you never know! good luck and dont forget to ask the guy you are fallin for if hes cool with it, which in fact he prob. is.
2007-02-08 10:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by PrinCipeSSa ItaLiAnA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that is a very bad idea. The first guy you liked could be new to relationships and not know how to act. Time and patience and talking can fix that. But falling for the bestfriend is terrible. Not only could it ruin the possibbility for you and him but it could ruin the relationship between him and his friend.
2007-02-08 10:57:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mike B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing,is to forget about him and his friend.
Changing over to his friend might sound retaliatory;how do you know that his friend will not make fun of you and even tell him how cheap you are?
My advice to you,is to look for some one else,not close to him and start a new relationship,with caution any way.
2007-02-08 11:24:43 · answer #9 · answered by teddyallanah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this guy treats you nice one day and awful the next, why would you want to be with him? You would never know what mood he's in or how to approach him from one day to the next. Keep your heart to yourself and move on, he DOES NOT love you!
2007-02-08 10:55:37 · answer #10 · answered by mamabear1957 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a Kid! He acts like one. He thinks like one. And he'll be one until he's over 25 or so. Wait until you can grow up. and you'll have a better chance to finding a True Heart. One that can treat you with respect.
2007-02-08 10:55:49 · answer #11 · answered by Goggles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋