I know we need to have some "me" time. I work, take care of my daughter afterwards, but other than that I don't really do anything besides visit with family. I don't do anything as far as interests or hobbies, although am feeling like I should be. I feel bad enough being at work all day, let alone going anywhere soley for myself without including her. How do you manage to work full time, spend enough quality time with your child(ren), and still pursue any of your own interests?
2007-02-08 02:44:12 · 10 answers · asked by angelbaby 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
LOL I don't......... wait a few years once they get a little older you won't feel the guilt and will have more time to your self. they grow so fast they are 13 before you know it. Then they don't want to hang out with mom as much anymore
2007-02-08 02:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by mary3127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time that I soooooooooo very much looked forward to was that 'me' time in my own room, when the kids had settled down for the night and the house was picked up, usually we ALL did that together..............and I would have a good book that it was MY enjoyment, not a kids story or a work thing or a school book but a ME book................I made my room as adult as possible and with no kid stuff around, may sound VERY selfish but they had free rein over the rest of the house but this was my sanctuary.
The thing is no matter what you do, or how you do it you will still second guess your self and even tho mine are all but out the house on good paths in life I still have some twinges of guilt that things COULD have been better.but you know what the reward is.........seeing them do well graduate early , never the police to the door, no real troubles, no babies and on the way to being REALLY productive members of socitey, do what YOU can do so there is a reasonable balance in your life, maybe your family could have the kids for one day in the month where you do NOTHING for the house, no work, nothing at all but what you WANT to do....now this could be lunch with the girls, a day mummy shopping [ie looking at stuff and buying nothing lol lol] and day where you take the phone off the hook and do face nails hair etc have a glass of wine and relax............you would be amazed at how recharged you feel and IF you can do it once a month then it gives you something to look forward to as well.
Regards and above all just do your best.............dont try to compete with others, often their lives are not that great anyways
2007-02-08 10:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by candy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, i work full-time, go to school at night. and still come home and take care of my daughter. I never really had any "me" time. It doesnt bother me as much as it used to because I know i'm doing what is best for the both of us. Sometimes my mom will take her to the park so I can study but thats only on the weekends. All of my time goes to providing for my child or having fun with her. Although I am trying to join a gym after the 2nd child, hopefully ill find some friends lol.
2007-02-08 23:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I am not a single mom, but know how you feel b/c I work full time and go to school full time for grad school.
My opinion, you sound like a great mom. You sound like such a great mom that you don't realize that some of us that aren't single don't spend as much quality time with our kids as you do and you do it!
Don't feel like you need to fill a void of being single to in being with her in all of your free time. What to couples do on their weekends when both parents work?
I really think that it's impt that you take care of yourself and give some "me" time to you. Your daughter is lucky, and I am sure if she were old enough she'd want that for you...
Talk to your family, tell them that for starters you'd like maybe one day a month that they can watch her for a day for yourself. Take the whole month to plan this day. Catch up with friends, go get a massage. Go out for a run. Or even stay in curl up to a bowl of ice cream and watch a movie.
Good Luck.
2007-02-08 10:57:14 · answer #4 · answered by joy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just like any thing else if you were married you and your husband would go out and get a babysitter. single parents always feel guilty because they feel like they have to make up for the other parent not being there. the best thing is have good people around her that will impart those things that we as a woman cant.Its hard but she will be better off it you don't do the guilt thing because when they get older they use it against you. then you never have a life ... speaking from experience.but the good thing is that you will always have your daughter. and they turn out wonderful in the end to be a great friend when they grow up. be a parent not a buddy....
2007-02-08 11:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by hairnaildoc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I so understand.....
Yes, you need "me" time. Some mothers need less "me" time than others, but don't feel guilty for any SECOND of private time you have.
My son is old enough to actually want some "me" time of his own, so usually MY time is whenever he's having HIS time. But there are times when I want to go OUT.
He and I made a deal; if I go somewhere without him, before I go we arrange something we'll do together. For example, if I want to go to a concert that he's too young for, we'll agree to go to a movie of his choosing.
Frankly, I would go insane without some time away from being "employee, " or "Mom," or "student." Sometimes, you just have to be...you. Filling no role at all.
2007-02-10 08:28:01 · answer #6 · answered by astreastar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually i work full time during the day and then i take my son (17 months) to places like Chuck E Cheese, or Grandmas basically i have change my intrest to ones that we can both enjoy, I'm still a mama's girl and he would rather be with grandma LOL so it all works out especially when i do need adult time he just goes and stays at grandmas. but normally i do things that we both can do together. being a single mom its been pretty easy for me to always put his needs first.
2007-02-08 11:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by puppy love 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and she both should have time without the other. See if a friend or family member will watch your daughter while you do something alone for yourself at least once a month.
2007-02-08 10:51:44 · answer #8 · answered by OOO! I know! I know! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out with your girlfriends at least once a month for a ladies night. I do it. My daughter is fine with it, she knows sometimes mommies need to go out.
Get together with other moms and their children-go to the movies,shopping, out to lunch so you canyou have your time with a friend and they can have their time too.
Going out once a month or so should NOT make you feel guilty.
2007-02-08 11:15:24 · answer #9 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try the ymca
2007-02-08 10:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋