Parents found out about baby.?

Question

My parents have just learned that they are grandparents. They are pushing me to be with Chantelle. Me and Chantelle are unable to get along. I don't want my daughter raised in a home with adults fighting all the time.
How do I get my parents to see that Chantelle and I aren't compatible. We did not know this until just a few months ago.
HELP. They are pushing me to marry Chantelle. This would drive me crazy.

Answer 1

So she isn't compatible to live with and marry, but compatible enough to have sex with. If you are old enough to have sex you should be old enough to deal with the consequences of it. I say you need to grow up. Any male can father a child, but it takes a MAN to raise one.

Answer 2

I think for the sake of your child you should try to seek councilling. Maybe you can work it out with Chantelle. And if not, at least you can tell you child you tried. Whatever the case, make sure you see the child often. Pay child support on time. Help out with buying the child clothing. Help out by paying half for sports and any babysitters that Chantelle needs. Having a baby is a life long thing. Having a baby and raising it by yourself is very scarey and difficult. Be as supportive and caring as you can be. And always be respectful. Be the Man even if she's not be reasonable. Do the right thing by your child and always be honest. It will work out, you will see. Whether you end up with Chantelle or not, you are in this together. At least for the next 18 years.

Answer 3

Are you taking on your parental responsibilities? Maybe your parents think that is the only way they will get to see their grandchild. Grow up ! Become the best parent to your child that you can.Maintain a civil relationship with the baby's mother for the child's sake ! Let your parents see that you are taking responsibility. Maybe they will back off and let your relationship evolve on its own. Being pushed into a marriage is not good for any one .You didn't say how old the two of you are or even if the baby's mother is for this idea. Being parents together is not a good reason to get married. Your child , however didn't cause the situation resulting in your discomfort . You and the child's mother did when you created her! Now is the time to grow up and do what is right for every one. Keep an open mind about future possibilities. You never know what will happen when you co-operate to raise this child . You might find yourself in the very relationship you do not want right now. Obviously now is not the time for it . Back burner that . Concentrate on raising a happy , healthy child. Don't try to dodge your share of responsibilities. What you do now can come back to bite you on the butt later!
Don't get married until you are ready to !

Answer 4

Regardless of whether you marry her or not, you need to learn to get along with her. Try counseling...anything for the sake of the child, because even though you may not marry her, you will still need to be around her A LOT in order to be a responsible father and be there for your child. Also, understand that chantelle may be extra argumentative or grouchy for the next year because she has been pregnant and her hormones are going up and down, causing a lot of stress for her.

I know you don't want to be with this woman, but in a way you will always be with her, because you 2 made an adult decision that resulted in adult consequences. I think you should stick it out, work things out with her, and just don't fight with her. Try to be nice and do something for her...like bring her flowers or candy to show you care....again, I think you all need to go to counseling.

Good luck with everything

Answer 5

You can still have a baby and not be with that person,and I think your right no if you dont get along with the mom of the baby it wont be good for the baby.Tell your parents you will support the baby and thay can see the baby as well as you will,but a marriage is just not going to happen to both of your agreements ,tell them what you told us you 2 cannot get along and it would be a bad situation for the child,and it would probably end up in divorce anyway,so no stick to your guns.You sound smart enough to know what is right and wrong,never ever let anyone push you into marriage.Sooner or later your parents will accept this.

Answer 6

You can be a responsible father without marrying the mother. You are correct, no child should be raised in a home with constant fighting and yelling. Don't let them push you into this, as you already know it's not good. Explain to them that you will do whatever it takes to raise your daughter, but you will not marry someone you do not love and do not get along with. They will have to accept this and just enjoy their new grandchild.

Answer 7

WHATEVER you dont marry this chick!!! If you dont get along now you will NEVE get along while being married!! You ahve mad e a mistake and that's ok everyone does it. Tell your parents that they cant controll your life and you will not marry chantelle. Let them know that you will however be a man and take care of your child 100%.

Answer 8

Straight up -sit them down and tell them how you feel about Chantelle. However, they might think that this is an effort to ditch your responsibilities. If possibly you can talk to them with her. How old are you again? Dude next time use some rubbers

Answer 9

You are wise not to marry this girl if she drives you nuts. Better for a child to be brought up in a single parent household, than one where both parents are constantly fighting. You have made a baby with this girl, at least carry your end of the financial burden and be a frequent visitor in the baby's life.

Answer 10

Explain to them that there is no way that a marriage will work, and that you are more than willing to take care of your child with support and visitation.