My ex is so stupid?

Question

He broke up with me, because he didn't want to be in a relationship anymore and under the same breath he says he wants us to better for each other and have more when he wants to settle down. He has been seeing lots of other women,partying like crazy,and drinking until he makes himself sick. I told him well i want to a relationship and you don't so we are at a lost.I told him i have been seeing someone else and he gets mad at me and trys to make me feel bad about it. I know he loves me but I don't know to what extent anymore.I think he is acting out because of jealousy.Part of me wanted to see what the outcome will be from all of this,then another part is telling me to move on and whatever happens,happens. One thing I know I have to do is cut him off completely because he will never see or realize what he has unless he loses it. I can't seem to not talk to him when he calls PLEASE help me out with this.

Answer 1

and he's stupid? You're the one putting up with it.

Answer 2

I recently ended a relationship of 4 years. Almost for the same reason. But the minute I knew she was gone, I thought long and hard, and realized I had made bad decisions. If he really loves you, he'd work on the relationship with you. Thats how I think about it. But the situation i'm in is that my ex does not want to come back right away. So i am trying really hard to do the right thing, and hope for the best. I found that if you dont contact the ex as much, and give space, it might just be what will bring yous back together. Its something thats really hard for me to do. :)

Answer 3

If he's seeing lot of other women then he's not serious about the deciosion he made between you and him. He's most likely doing a lot of partying and such to keep his mind off of you. Some people have a deep fear of serious relatioships and try to get as far away as possible but not to far so they completely move on. What you need to do is use all your strength to keep a distance to get him to realize what he's lost. The easy way to do this is to understand your doing it for his benefit and yours.

Answer 4

obviously u want him to come back to u and settle with u
ok now ask ur self this question, is he the one u want to married
if not then move on, if u see potential in him, then make ur self lass available to him, when he starts to realize that, he will step up his game, but u need to retrain ur self from makin ur self too available for me, and if he trys to make u feel guilty use the pocupinne effect which is lets his words hurt him dont defend ur self or argue. for x when a porcuppine is being attack, they dont fight back they let there attacker strike them and in the process the attacker gets hurts because of the spikes all the porcuppine does its stay there and lets the fool of the attacker hurt themselves
watch him come back

but dont answer all his call
when u talk to him talk normal and then let him go
cut the convos short

Answer 5

Think about your statement......My ex is so stupid?.....1st what is this saying about yourself, you are still thinking of him and wondering if you should get back with him so be smart and get rid of him! End it completely no contact at all. Not on the phone, not on the computer none! Ignore him and he will go away. Get on with your life, continue seeing the other person and get over him. The best thing you can do!

Answer 6

sounds like you a level headed girl who knows what you want.Hes a kid that wants to have fun.your just a play toy to him and hes bored with you and wants to play the field. hes not mature enough to have a relationship.its alright to party a little but sounds like he put partying and booze and women in front of you.If you want to be in second or third place run after him but if you want a real partner run the other way and fast

Answer 7

If there is still feelings the both of you have for eachother than you try to get back together and if not than just tell him straight up and leave eachother alone

Answer 8

He is your ex leave it that way.you said that you are already seeing other people so why do you have to communicate with him and worry about what he think's.all you are doing is playing head games.If you are done with him and you should be because you are seeing other people leave him alone stop contacting him and don't answer if he call's you.It is very childish to play head games with people.He clearly told you that he did'nt want to be in a relationship and you want to be in one so move on and stop wasting eachothers time.

Answer 9

This is exceptionally immature behavior. I think he's right about one thing - he's not ready for commitment. Move on.

Answer 10

there's nothing you can do about this, he's just being a jerk. leave him alone. i know it's hard, but you can do it! you'll be better off without him, and i'm sure you'll find someone better.