Here it goes, i have been going out with my boyfriend for 6 month now and he has never once invited me out with him and his friends. Now i know people like to spend time alone doing there own thing but what really gets me is when he does go out with his friends there girlfriends are with them all in groups. In the 6 months i have been with him never once seen anyone or been invited out. Also i have been to my boyfriends house a few times when i 1st met him but for the past 5 month he also never invites me over to his house, his always wanting to come over where i live and do things round my area, i have talked about this to him and told him he needs to start and invite me and make me apart of things, but nothing changes. I also feel as if im doing all the work in this relationship too ie, i ask to see him, i sugest places to go, im the one that does all the phone calls, i have had this out with him many times but he just says i have got a problem!
2007-02-08 02:32:57 · 52 answers · asked by ice_castles 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please dont advise me to talk with him cos it gets me nowhere, he just says his sick of these chats, or says he will start asking me out, but nothing ever comes of it.
2007-02-08 02:34:02 · update #1
CAN SOMEONE TELL ME PLEASE IS THIS NORMAL? OR DO I HAVE A BLOODY PROBLEM LOL
2007-02-08 02:38:10 · update #2
treat him as he treats you, if he feels anything for you hell pull himself to gether , if your just there for pleasure then hell move on, let him suggest the next meet up, either be busy and turn it down or just say you will meet in town or anywhere away from your place
2007-02-08 02:37:51 · answer #1 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wants to keep the relationship with his friend separate from the relationship with you. All couples need time apart, and maybe that's what he does with his time away from you. If it really bothers you instead of complaining about him never asking you to go, just simply ask why he doesn't invite you. It could be a number of things. If you feel that you are doing all the work in the relationship, it might just be he's not that in to you and you should consider moving on.
2007-02-08 02:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by Just D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me you have not a very romantic young man, in fact one that sounds not really interested in you or your relationship. Honey, if things do not sound or feel right to you, you can bet they are not right. We have all been given an inner intuition and if we listen to it we are never to far off the mark.
A young man in love, is wanting to bring his girlfriend home to meet his Mom and Dad and his siblings. He also wants to show her off and get his friends to meet her. You are already suspisious why he is not wanting to do this with you. Why is he not with you when he goes out with his friends and their girls. This does not sound right and you can bet there is something else there that he is not telling you. Nest time he goes off with his friends with out you, ask where he and his friends are going, ask casually so he will not get suspicious and then ask a trusted friend to show up at that place and observe for you what is happening. Does he have another girl with the group, does he act differently then when he is with you, does he get drunk and does not want you to know, whatever, you will find out.
Also, I would not talk to him anymore about his lack of attention to you, just keep quiet and see for yourself how long it will take him before he calls you and asks you out. If he is really interested in you, he will call you and come around. This is the only way to find out..just give him his space and do not make always the first move. If he is not interested, then let him go and be of good cheer, have hope, you will meet a young man one day that will be interested in you and be proud of you to show you off to his family and friends. He will be the one making all the first moves, calls and visits, as a young man should.
Good Luck..
2007-02-08 03:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mari-Mari 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey.
I kno what ur goin through, iv been with my bf for 4 yrs, and in our 2nd yr he said 2me that me staying round his place was wired, i was like WHAT, so now he stays at mine all the time. I guess i have lernt to deal with it, most coz i love him, but concedering i was round his all the time. I have since then thourt there could be someone else....i have played hard 2get an it has wrked, but as far as me going 2 his house, thats outta the question. I have 2 tried 2 tlk bout it, but its a bad subject an i don't kno why. I am happy with him of course, but then i do always have this at the bk of my mind. Its easer said then done to dump him, esspecially when u love an care about that person, its ur feeling that get hurt in the long run, not theres. Hope eveythink wrks out x
2007-02-08 03:47:09 · answer #4 · answered by Laura 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this is what's going on just 6 months into the relationship, GET OUT NOW! You are being used! This guy has you right where he wants you to be...The chaser! You are not going to change a damn thing with this type of guy. He will only come around when you break it off. then things will be good for a month or two and you'll be back to sqaure one. I have 6 sisters and have seen all types. this type will only scar you and make you bitter. Lets hope you have held out with the sexual favors, if not Thats your MISTAKE!
2007-02-08 02:41:50 · answer #5 · answered by MRJERK715 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure that he's stuck. All this time he would love to have a girlfriend but values being free with his friends more. Maybe he is not sure that he wants to be with you yet. This sorta thing happened to me and it didn't end up good. I found him at a party with his friends and their girlfriends with my BEST friend. So if I were you I wouldn't get too attached. Tell him you are not happy and if this is the way that he wishes to treat you then tell him you want nothing to do with it anymore. If he cares about you he will be totally against it.
2007-02-08 02:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i`d think that after 6 months he should either know if he wants a longterm relationship and do the introductions to his friends as it`s not as if they`re single and no other girls around.
I know you`ve said you don`t want to speak to him again but i would just once more and find out what it is he`s looking for from you and the future,if it`s not what you want to hear then i`m afraid it`s time to move on.Goodluck.
2007-02-08 02:39:50 · answer #7 · answered by onlyme 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know this is all u hear from everyone "dump him" "get over him". but we both know that's easier said then done.i have been there and i know all my friends have to.thers a reason why hes doing this and i think its because aether he dose things differently around his friends then he dose around u,or he hangs around a diffrent girl when hes around a norther group of people,and i am saying that because i watched my bf buddy do that to girls for years and hes still doing it.theres lots of reasons why he is doing this and all i have to say is dont let him hurt u if he really likes u he will buck up. and for the u allways calling him thing dont! let him call u. u need to take controll other wise the relationship is going down hill take it from me iave been to hell and back and my and my bf have been together for 5 years now i have been with him since i was 16 now 21
2007-02-08 07:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Sinfully_Mell*~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes have read what you have put here and you are not the first to have this problem,b/fs are such a pain in the butt,don't you think,yes i can understand what you are saying about the hard work.It's like they lead two lives,the one with you and the other one. The question is really have you had enough of him,will he every change and would you be prepared to dump him?Oh and he WILL never change believe me.
2007-02-08 02:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM!! you have only been together 6 months you dont sound as though your happy and maybe he has another girl. It seems strange that he doesn't want you in the area that he lives in and doesnt invite you out with his friends. or maybe im really sorry to say this but perhaps his frineds dont like you?
2007-02-08 02:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by kazz06 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing normal about it.
Why are you even with him? Not once did you mention anything about the relationship that makes you happy.
If you're done talking then there are only three options: 1 It's time for an ultimatum. 2. Live with it. 3. Leave him.
2007-02-08 02:38:04 · answer #11 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋