Why is it that people can tell you that they like you, really care about you and would like to be with you but the timing just seems wrong? However, they don't want you to walk out of their lives. I know sometimes it's a matter of keeping your options open, but why? Why are some people so set on ruining what is potentially a good thing for something that may not even be half as good? Why do people always think the grass is greener on the otherside?
What's the deal with keeping your options open?
2007-02-08 02:24:04 · 5 answers · asked by geminig 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I hate to be the one to break this to you, but if a guy is keeping his options open, it's because you're not good enough for him to know he wants you permanently, but you're too good to let walk away now (probably because you're giving him regular sex). If somebody wants you, they will make the timing right.
Or, to quote a character in one of my all-time favorite films (Stella in "Rear Window"): Every man's ready when the right one comes along!
If I were you, I'd walk.
2007-02-08 02:39:19 · answer #1 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear girl what can I say. I am going through exactly the SAME thing and have been for 7 months on and off. We met things went great from there. We couldn't get enough of each other. Laughs and sense of humour and even just having a great companion around intellectually. Anyway he started off saying that he didnt want anything serious right now, and then after got closer and closer. So then we agreed try something, but then he wouldn't be 100% in the relationship, probably because he REALLY wasn't in the frame of mind! So then it was a thing where he was suggesting that we be friends and actuall friends until he is really ready as I am a potential woman for him, but he is not seeking settling down right now and he wouldn't be able to treat me 100% right at this moment in time. But just like one of the other answers said before me, regardless of anything they would be with YOU regardless. So in someways I do think that mine guy DID think I was the one, STILL WANTED TO KEEP HIS OPTIONS OPEN!! REGARDLESS EVEN IF THEY FEEL YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH. They just can't get the thought of talking, speaking or settling down out of them! I have decided to move on now, and if and WHEN HE DOES COME BACK, WHICH HE PROBABLY WILL WHEN HE IS READY FOR A RELATIONSHIP AS HE BELIEVES THAT I AM A GOOD ASSET! Then I will have to politely DECLINE! and say no. As why should I be with him when he is no 100% SURE! IT'S TOO LATE. Please move on, and THEN maybe he will realise??? and I think he will but only if you DO THAT! I have to do it to. Let DO IT TOGETHER. BE STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMEN! Email me if needed! Good Luck!
2007-02-08 11:21:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've bet that right now you're in this situation. To be honest keeping options open means one of two things:
1)either he just wants to get in your pants but not be committed to you or
2)he's scared of commitment.
You should just ask him about it!
2007-02-08 10:31:53 · answer #3 · answered by lover4ne1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are just confused on their feelings and are afraid of a commitment. they are the people who struggle with finding marriage and people who cant live a steady life. some will grow up and some wont. u need to pick and choose your battles. good luck
2007-02-08 10:37:21 · answer #4 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm going thru that now with my guy. he won't commit for nothing. he is keeping his options open, but he doesn't realize that if someone comes along, i'm gone. and you should be the same way.
2007-02-08 10:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Baby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋