i want to break up with my girlfriend?

Question

We've been going out for about 2 months and i'm just not that into her, the trouble is i like her and don't want to hurt her feelings and its a bit harsh to break up at this time of year so should i do it before or after valentines day?

Answer 1

just do it you will get the right chase just take it .

Answer 2

Valentine's day is a commercial holiday that actually has nothing to do with your relationship. If you want to break up with this person, tell her in the nicest way possible and move on. Her feelings may be hurt, but as long as you haven't been cruel about calling it quits, you can feel secure in doing the right thing.

When you're unhappy in a relationship, it's always better to get out of it quickly, rather than wait for the right time. In all honesty, there simply is no right time for breaking up.

Answer 3

If you do it before she'll say to everyone (possibly whilst crying) "He broke up with me just before Valentines day! What a b@astard!" If you do it after the day she'll say (again, possibly whilst crying) "He broke up with me just after Valentines day! What a b@stard!" What I'm trying to say is, the time of year doesn't make a difference and unfortunately, no matter how nicely you put it, or what reasons you have her feeling are going to be hurt and she is going to be angry! That what happens but people do get past it and move on. So the best thing to do in my opinion is get it out of the way sooner or later. Also, if you dump her after valentines, you're going to have to buy her a present and a card etc. This could also get her hopes up a bit and make her think you're more into her than you actually are!

Answer 4

After, but dont get her a valentine or anything, that will only lead her on. Also try to find a cute friend to introduce her too. That will make it easier on you. Also get your stuff out of the house otherwise it might be vandalized. Be very careful, also say that you still want to be friends and that you wont betray any of the intamicies of your relationship to anyone else. Dont break up in public. Also say that you arent looking at other people you just want a different relationship.

Answer 5

i dont know what u 2 did during those 2 months but i think its best to break up after valentines. maybe a week or two later. if u break it off with her before valentines, then she might think u just didnt want to get her anything and u dont feel obliged to be with her. she might think ur a jerk. try to work it out more im going through the same thing.

Answer 6

Honestly (this is coming from a girl) don't ruin her Valentines Day and just break up with her after Val. Day. The only thing you need to know is do it in a nice way, and break up with her in person, not on the telephone or the computer! IN PERSON! Hope i was of some help to you.

Answer 7

If you want to break up with her, do it now. Honestly, if you were with someone who didn't want to be with you but was waiting to break up until a later date to "spare your feelings", how would you feel? Breaking up is hard for both parties, but you have to be mature about it and take the bull by the horns (to use a cliche phrase)

And in response to other peoples answers:
breaking up with her now is not going to taint her valentines day for the rest of her life - you've only been dating 2 months
and also, if you break up with her now she will NOT think it was just because you didn't want to buy her a present , and if she did think that she's not gonna be sad, she's gonna be annoyed.

Answer 8

I would say..save you and her the trouble! She's going to be heartbroken either way I'm sure! Nobody likes getting dumped... You should do it sooner than later. The sooner the better...dont drag her along when you dont wanna be with her because you will feel bad! You should feel more bad about waiting just to save you some misery! Just get it over with, the sooner you do it, the sooner she has to get over it! Trust me, as we all know, she will get over it! It may hurt for a while..but just let her know that you 2 would be better off as friends or something like that... or you dont think you could see the both of you having a future, only as friends becasue your too picky or something! lol.... Tell her its not her and its you...you guess your just not ready for a committed relationship... I dunno, I hope that helped a lil! Good Luck!

Answer 9

you havent really been together that long so i doubt it will be the end of her world. if you want to break up with someone and you plan on doing it i would do it before valentines day. why would you spend a holiday with someone that is about love and caring if you then plan on breaking up with them? the sooner the better because the longer you draw it out the more it will hurt her.

Answer 10

If you don't want to continue your relationship with her then be honest with her and end it. She may not be happy when you break the news, but she will respect your honesty later. Who wants to feel like the only reason they were in a relationship on Valentine's Day was because they were pitied.

Answer 11

if u feel like it then break up with her!! dont hold it off, urll only make urself feel worse, n if she finds out that u have bin feeling like this for a while n u dumped her after val day she would b soo mad at u......an easy way to split up is to explain to her that u dont have strong feelings for her n that u wanna stay friends, n if u think shes going to b hurt on val day, n neither of u have another partner before then, then offer to take her out, just as mates.....cinema, ice skating, bowlin!! u dont just do that with a girlfriend, mates r prone to a bit of fun too, just becoz u wont b together doesnt mean u cant still b mates n have fun
gud luck
xx