im still in love with my ex we split up 6 weeks ago we both agreed a break and it was hurting me to much as he still wonted a break 4 weeks later i have now ended it he has text goin how am i , i have not replyed as i can not be mates with him love him to much i guess, everything i love he loks etc just wish he wil come back to me hug me and say they when he said he feel dif bout us 2 but still love me, and to try again, what can i do he lives 3 mins away and i see his kar and house on way to work i can not go another way 3.5 years im used to loking at it lol sad hay , he mite text me again 2nite wen he out drink i feel bad for ignroing him but he knows if he really wont to get me he knows were i live and stuff rite mabie he is still tryin to figure if he wana b with me ?
2007-02-08 02:06:24 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanx u guys r brill i may email and just say im not to bad hope he is ok aswel or just leve it ?
2007-02-08 02:40:58 · update #1
no, he does not still love you. He probably wanted a shag.
2007-02-08 02:11:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know sweetie, if you think he is the one then you need to sit him down and talk to him. Let him know how you feel. I know it is hard to imagine someone you have been with for 3.5 years just wanting to be friends.
I have been in a similar situation with the most amazing girl on this planet. The things she did are the same as what he is doing to you. She didn't want the Title of "Boyfriend/Girlfriend" but she wanted all the perks. Money, sex, more money and she thought I would be there forever as a friend, but my love for her was too over powering and I could not deal with it emotionally.
Like her, his problem is with commitment. He is scared about what his life has become. For 3.5 years you are all he has known and for whatever reason is getting bored with the idea of being with you. Despite that lenghty commitment to you he does not know if you are the one he wants by his side for the rest of his life. What you need to do so you don't get hurt even more is keep the coochie off limits because guys will always come back for it if we know it there and we will say whatever to get it, sit him down and tell him how you feel, and let him know that the emotional games he is playing are only causing you more pain.
In his defense, as a guy or a girl who has been in a long term relationship that goes bad we can't ever imagine the other person wanting to be with someone else. so we try to hold on to something that isnt there. Often times that is why friendships do not work with someone you have dated. Past feels will always surface and make you bitter toward the other person.
After you talk to him, if you can see that he is not receptive to what you have to say then walk away. Allow yourself the opportunity to be single and talk to and hang out with different guys. At some point you have to ask yourself if it is REALLY worth holding too. If you constantly sacrifice your own happiness just to be with him then you will never be able to pursue and find true love. Best of luck to you hunny, I know exactly how you feel!!
2007-02-08 02:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by voodoo_lover_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes this happens in a relationship, when one partner gets restless. Once this happens, it is understandable how this can cause the other partner much anxiety and even panic. The panic one feels can cause us to beg, plead, cry, manipulate, anything to hold on. So what happens, this makes the other person even more determined to move on. In a situation as this, it is best to "open that cage door" and set him free. As time goes by, prove his freedom is secure by not contacting him in any way. After doing this, what begins to happen is that he begins to admire your strength, starts to regain respect for you, wonders how you are doing. He then begins to wonder if freedom is what he really wants. He begins to think to himself, "what have I done, have I lost her, did she find someone else, wonder if this is just another ploy to get me back"....You might want to respond to his text just once by saying this, "I love you but if it is your freedom you want then I will have to accept this. if you ever come to decide that a relationship with me is what you want, then call me, otherwise I do hope you find what it is you are looking for and I do wish you well". Be evasive, do not add alot of details about how you feel.Then do not contact him in anyway. After all, if you ever get him back wouldn't you want it because he wants to be with you, not because he was forced? I know this will be a difficult thing to do, but what other options do you have? And even if you two are still unable to work through this, then at least you will come off not losing your degnity. Good luck to you!
2007-02-08 03:07:54 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can try telling him how you feel, but if he's out drinking it's not going to matter. When he's drinking I am sure he's thinking something totally different, something a little more sexual. If you still have feelings for him and you get physical with him it will just make it worse for you to get over him and he will know he has the power to use his looks to get to you. Don't fall into it. Guy's are like that and love to feel that you want them and they can leave when they want at there convenience!
2007-02-08 02:17:40 · answer #4 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he wants you tah nhe wants you if he soes'nt. If he does still love you and says it than maybe you can work it out. If he does not love you anymore than move on it will be hard at first to move on at first but take it one day at a time and you will better about yourself inside and out.
2007-02-08 02:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him how you feel..you can't be friends. He probally still cares about you and probally misses you..but does not want a relationshop. Again tell him how YOU feel and he needs to give you the respect you deserve
2007-02-08 02:12:18 · answer #6 · answered by whatelsewhatever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you keep ignoring him he will give up there are plenty of women out there who are willing to cause a distraction and if he starts getting fun and pleasure there will be no turning back dont chase him just reply to his texts
2007-02-08 02:16:18 · answer #7 · answered by 0000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest u reply him since u still dont want to miss him. let him know his fault and apolozy where nessacery. Good luck.
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2007-02-08 02:57:21 · answer #8 · answered by beyygee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you see his kar what it that. and no I dint think he loves you.move on girl.
2007-02-08 02:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by bette69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's looking to f*ck you thats all
2007-02-08 02:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋