What do you think here?

Question

I dated Michele for 3 years and then I broke up with her when I got to college (same college as her - she's two years older than me). I was always very attached to her, and even after I broke up with her, I couldn't bring myself to stop talking to her, even when she asked me to. A few weeks after I broke up with Michele, I started dating Louise. I don't know if I was ever REALLY in love with her, but it was something different for a change. Louise wants to remain a virgin til marriage. I really liked her, but I just couldn't do this. I still hung out with Michele, and one thing usually led to another, and I ended up cheating on Louise. I started questioning whether I actually was still in love with Michele. Then after 8 months of this going on, Michele told Louise about our affair - now I don't know what to do. I was really starting to think I still loved Michele, but how could she do something like this to me if she actually cares about me? I'm lost here.

Answer 1

That's a hard situation, does Michele know louise well? Maybe she felt guilty thinking that she was part of the affair and wanted to clear her conscience in order make it easier between you to. I'm not sure if it means that she doesn't care about you, maybe she just felt like it's something she had to say and thought that Louise had a right to know, it doesn't mean it affects your relationship with Michele, only with Louise, I think you should talk to her this will help you and her tell each other how you feel, because all this wondering is just going to cause paranoia, the only way you'll find out how she feels if you ask her. I know it will be hard to do but I think that'l be the best and then you can go from there really. Hope it helps good luck

Answer 2

Hon, you're in too deep. You need to break ties with both girls and be single for a while. Tell them both you can't talk to them any more (ever) and stick to it. Concentrate on school or your job or some activity - maybe make a goal for working out and getting in really great shape or something. In a few months you'll start seeing why neither of these girls is right for you (Do you want to be with someone who condoned your cheating? Do you want to be with someone who you're not even sure you loved?)

After a while, you'll start seeing yourself again as an independent person and not as "part" of one relationship or another. It is SO important that you swear off dating for a while though, or you'll always be codependent. You need to reestablish your personal identity and confidence and sense of whats right. Then you'll be a great boyfriend for someone new. And you'll find the right girl, someone you'll know you love, know you want to be with, and know you'll want to be loyal to.

All my best.

Answer 3

This maybe a little much for you bed hopping people but consider this. when you stuck your tongue and other body parts into each others body you now have 6 months to a year to have a disease show up. If just for that reason alone give yourself 6 months to a year before dating. Emotionally should be equally as long. Otherwise your basicly a ho if you do it any other way.

Answer 4

Best find another college to enroll at quickly. Preferably, one somewhere that you are not known at, where your reputation for cheating on the people you are supposed to love is not common knowledge.

Answer 5

Snatch is a form of mind control. She's using what she's got to get you back from this other chick, who would probably be a better wife.

Answer 6

NO CARE FOR YOU. YOU MAY NOT LIKE IT BUT THIS IS THE FACT. INDEED YOU ARE LOST.

Answer 7

She probably just wants you to herself.

Answer 8

move on it sounds like she is through with you