I live with my b/f and at the begining of our relationship I found emails of him talking with his ex-wife. I told him how I didn't feel comfortable with him keeping contact with his ex. He said he would tell her to leave him alone. Ten months later he mentioned that the ex was asking to meet him before she moves. He said she was stupid and desperate and I thought he had handled it. Well last weekend I asked to use his cell phone and couldn't help but ignore my gut feeling. I checked the text messages. He told her he had to lay low because I somehow found out about her wanting to meet him for lunch. He swears he hasn't seen her in over a year. Do I believe him for the second time or leave him?
2007-02-08 01:56:58 · 10 answers · asked by Chrissy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also, he did not have children with his ex. Although she had three children from her other marriages.
2007-02-08 02:19:03 · update #1
You are gullible if you stay with this guy. He is playing you like a violin and it isn't going to stop. Once she is gone, there will be someone else, trust me on this. Your best bet is to abort this mission and return to base quickly!
2007-02-08 02:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-24 06:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is very typical.Your boyfriend still has an attachment to his ex and what I mean by that is that he never really ended the relatindhip with her completely.Nobody can give there all to a new relationship until the old one is completely disolved.You did'nt mention if he had children with his ex so i am asuming that he does'nt and in that case he has no reason to be communicating with her.I hate to say it but I think the best thing for you to do is end your relationship with him and move on.He has already proven to you that he is untrustworthy to you.Trust is everything in a relationship without Trust you have nothing.You have clearly stated that you don't trust him so what do you have.He is being dishonest and you deserve better.I think that deep down you already know that he is not being honest with you so save yourself a lot of heart ache and get out now.Good luck to you.
2007-02-08 02:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Maureen B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am no expert but here is what I think. To be somebody's husband that is a strong bond sometimes it is hard to break it off and not talk to a person that played such an important role in one's life. If they maintained a friendly relationship that involved you I think it would've been something to consider (depending on your level of comfort with it). I do think that you should be this man's priority and that his ex wife's emotional problems (the fact that she is stupid and desperate) should be none of his concerns. The text message stating that he needs to lay low should raise a huge red flag and definitely make you question how honest he is with you. Although I cannot tell you whether to leave him or believe him I can't help but think you deserve someone that gives you undivided attention and place you first .
Hope this help !!!
2007-02-08 02:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by linatik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's totally up to you. If you think you can trust him again more power to ya. If there are no kids involved and they have no ties then there is no reason for them to communicate and if you are that important to him he will get it. However if he makes you insecure you shouldn't be with him. It all comes down to what you feel you deserve. If you feel you deserve better then tell him and be ready for the consequences. If he leaves your better off! Good luck!- Love is suppose to make you feel good not lousy!!!!
2007-02-08 02:06:44 · answer #5 · answered by prettyfroggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him because if he is still talking with the ex wife than there is still some kind of feeling there because if the marriage is over than it is over. he still have feelings for her so let him go and maybe you find someone else to treat you with respect.
2007-02-08 02:05:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tara G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be very suspicious. It sounds as though your boyfriend has not gotten over his ex-wife. If he was really ready to move on he would sever ties with her all together. I think that it is time to move on for you, you need to find someone that is better for you and to you and respects you.
Good luck.
2007-02-08 02:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Important 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer. If he lied once, then twice he's bound to do it again. You know this or you wouldn't be asking. Spare any future pain. C-YA Mr. LIAR!
2007-02-08 02:01:36 · answer #8 · answered by butterfly_lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...trust him explicitly and talk with him about how much fun he will have on this unexpected business trip that he just found out about....
2007-02-08 02:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go with him to meet her. tell him he can go but only if you go with him.but never believe him he is talking to her, but find out exactly what they are talking about. they could just be friends now.
2007-02-08 02:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by devilskater99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋