before I even had thoughts about this guy in any form or fashion .. i began having consecutive dreams about him being my husband. after several dreams, I decided to really look at him and come to find out he is very fine indeed! anyway some where down the line I started liking him but would act so indifferent arorund him (he had no idea I liked him) after a while I started noticing that he was always in my circle for no reason whatsoever and come to find out he liked me. before I had no idea..anyway now we are seeing each other for over 6 months but our relationship is weird...we are like the best of friends but we really haven't gone on dates and we do not speak about our feelings towards each other. we've spent a lot of time together hanging out but has not gone on an official date...I don't have a clue as to where we are heading ...I tried to ask before and he just was uncomfortable about the whole relationship thing...he was hurt in his last relationship..any suggestions?????
2007-02-08 01:47:06 · 7 answers · asked by Mary S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 29 years old ..he's 30
2007-02-08 02:03:08 · update #1
I hate being in situations like this. Guys can be so hard to read sometimes. You need to ask him about things. If your not talking about your feelings and if he does not take you out on dates, then is he really a boyfriend? Yeah yeah he got hurt in his last relationship but he needs to realize your not the same as the last girl! I was in a relationship where the guy ALWAYS compared me to his ex. This is not good. If you really like this guy and want to continue seeing him, you need to be strong and lay it on the line. If your firm with him, he will know you mean business and if truly likes you then he will be sacred of loosing you. Now if this turns out negatively that is also not bad. Then you will not be wasting your time on someone who does not care about you as much as you care about them. And no one wants that in a relationship. Hope this helps!! Goodluck.
2007-02-08 01:55:46 · answer #1 · answered by sgraziano020 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this seems like a frustrating situation. I think that if he cannot even talk about the situation, then there is little hope for a relationship. If you've been seeing him for 6 mos, you should have some insight into what is going on between the two of you. If he is not ready to be in a relationship,then you need to find someone who is ....if that's what your looking for. Good Luck.
2007-02-08 10:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys hate talking about where a relationship is going. It's like a commitment to them.
As women, we usually want to know.
How old are you? Have you slept with him? Those things make a difference. If you are too young to get yourselves around - maybe that's why you haven't had a date. If you are sleeping together - sad as it may be - that might be the only reason he's hanging around.
There's nothing wrong with YOU arranging for a date to happen. But don't make a habit of it. You might resent it later.
Also - tell him you're willing to invest time in a relationship with him - but that he'll have to communicate with your about what that relationship would be. Would you see each other exclusively?
Also - you need not talk with him about the two of you in particular - but you can find things out in general. When with the group - have everyone share about their life plan. Ask everyone if they are planning to have children - go to college - get married etc. Get to know him in the group - and you might find out what you need to know in order to know if he is "the one" or not. In fact - you can even ask one of your other friends to ask those sorts of questions - so you don't look like you're prying.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 09:59:41 · answer #3 · answered by liddabet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age, and it sounds like you're young. If so, be content you have a great guy as a friend, and maybe things will blossom over time. Don't push the issue.
2007-02-08 09:53:16 · answer #4 · answered by melouofs 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're having a good time, enjoying it, then go with it. You'll find out soon enough if it's the going to work.
2007-02-08 09:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if you have to ask....he's NOT the one. Second, I know this sounds cliche', but you WILL know when it's the right one. I can not explain it, you just know.
2007-02-08 09:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by darkraven_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much to read, good luck
2007-02-08 09:49:54 · answer #7 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋