All of my BEST friends are gone living far away! I have my maid of honor and two of my bridesmaids but I need two more. Is it okay to ask a couple of girls whom I am friends with but no really close to. One has known me for almost a year it will be in march and she has known my fiance for years. But we don't talk to often....the other I have known for a year and I hardly talk with her but when we do talk or go out its a lot of fun. The main reason we don't hang out that often is because she lives 2 hours from me and we don't get to see each other that often. Would it still be okay to ask them?
2007-02-08 01:44:09 · 22 answers · asked by hawaiiansun_82 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sure ask them. I am sure they will be delighted.
2007-02-08 01:46:42 · answer #1 · answered by theplanningdiva 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can ask who ever you want but just be prepared for people to say NO. If you ask me, I would say no..... I don't feel like blowing a couple of hundred dollars on a dress and shoes and a shower because you don't have anyone else to ask.
Some people may be flattered and jump right on board. I would just give them an estimate idea of how much it's going to cost them up front. I was in a wedding of a friend and co-worker but she had other co-workers in the wedding..... One of them said yes,,, then saw the $200 price tag on the dress... plus travel time to get to her home town... shoes... shower $$$ , and she then told the girl NO. Cause a huge problem and fight... but the girl just said yes to be nice and didn't think she would have to pay for all this stuff.
I would ask and just be upfront with the cost- which is the major issue for bridemaids in weddings.
2007-02-08 10:14:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can ask them, but why do you need two more? Three is enough. Just be sure that you consider their distance when planning events. Try to limit how often they have to come into your area. Picking out the bridesmaid dresses can be tricky, but I made it work. Each girl tried on the dresses that were in their local store, for example.
Best of luck to you!
2007-02-08 09:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly fine to ask them. It's your wedding and your bridesmaids are your choice. And you never know, it could strengthen what little of a relationship you have with them and they could turn out to be some of your best friends later on down the road.
2007-02-08 11:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it would be ok to ask them, they're just bridesmaids so they don't have as much responsibility as the maid of honor.
Or if you don't feel comfortable, do you have any relatives that would do it, like a cousin or anything like that?
2007-02-08 09:48:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jay's Mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose whoever you want, this is your big day and God willing you only get married once, if you feel that you really want your best friends in it, call them up and see if they can squeeze a day in out of there busy schedule to come be with you, if there strapped on cash, maybe you could send them down, if youre strapped on cash, then its more then okay to have just friends in your wedding
2007-02-08 09:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask my very good friends first, even if they live far away, give them the opportunity to say yes or no, then it would be fine to ask the others. Your good friends might love to part of the wedding, regardless of where they live.
2007-02-08 14:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by Lynny K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you ~have~ to have more? There's no hard and fast rule that you need a certain amount of bridesmaids. I only had 2 and both were my maids of honor. :)
2007-02-08 09:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by razor_sharp_redhead 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl go on and ask the girls .You will be surprised that they just might be as happy as you are. Most females love to be in weddings. My first wedding that I was in was four years ago and I met the bride ,My first day on the job. right now today we are best friends and her first child is my god child.
2007-02-08 09:54:44 · answer #9 · answered by talltina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really want to be surrounded by people that you love and trust, your wedding day can be stressful and you need people to surround you that know you and how you will react, so im not sure asking people you havent known for long is the best way just because you want to make up the numbers
2007-02-08 09:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by sara 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would ask my friends first; you never know how far they're willing to go for you or how hurt they might be if you don't even ask. If you still need girls, I think it is perfectly acceptable to ask the other girls.
2007-02-08 10:01:17 · answer #11 · answered by Xiomy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋