Music is very important to me. I am getting married in October. I am not really into the normal tunes that get played at weddings by cheesy DJ's. So, I'd like to have a DJ that will play the songs that I give him. Has that been done? Is it offensive to the DJ?
2007-02-08 01:38:04 · 19 answers · asked by Dan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Sure you can. DJ will suggest what to play but of cause you pick the final list of songs. For DJ and price compare, I suggest visiting online website such as
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Unlike most yellow pages, they have price comparison for the vendors (DJ,videographer, florist, and photographer) you can choose.
You can also try Weddinglenox matching system http://www.weddinglenox.com/membersignup1.php that will match you up with local vendors. I tried it and have good result as I only recieved email from vendors according to my request.
One problem I had with my wedding is that it is hard to locate vendors in most website as most likely they group by states and there are too many of them that's too far from me and I have to look at each site to figure out.
The sites I provide above have a easy to use layout to show you pictures, pricing and location in one page plus, you can send out your inquiry for matching vendor to contact you. That save me lots of time to locate the best vendors with the right price.
2007-02-08 19:37:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I've seen dj's where you actually choose your whole playlist ont he internet. I personally didn't go with them because what is the point of paying a dj if you are picking all the music and the order it goes in. What I would recommend is either find a dj like this where you can designate what songs will be played and which will not.
I also went to a wedding where they played music off of their Ipod so they controlled exactly what was played. They had a friend act as an MC to make it feel more like a dj was present. They were on a buget- but it worked!
2007-02-08 02:34:54 · answer #2 · answered by justjen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be done. Just about any DJ can do it. However, you have to be sure that you pick enough songs to play for the entire evening, and you'll probably have to get him some of the music. This is a lot of time and work. It isn't offensive to the DJ, but it will upset the guests.
Most guests like to hear what THEY like, and they could care less about what you want to hear. You'll be busy mingling anyway. When a guest requests a song and the DJ says, sorry it's not on my list, they get very grumpy.
True, it is your wedding, but you're also supposed to be a good host. I strongly suggest letting the DJ bring their stock music for requests from guests, but also give him a list of what you particularly want him to play. That way, everyone is happy.
2007-02-08 01:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't restrict your DJ to only certain songs -- your guests might want to request something, and your DJ may have some ideas you haven't thought of!!
Most DJ's (at least, a good one will, anyway) will honor your tastes in music, and SHOULD spend time with you before the wedding to get a feel for what you do and don't like.
In my opinion, this is one aspect of your wedding reception you DO NOT want to cut corners on. Your DJ basically serves as the emcee for your reception, and if he has no personality, or has no idea what you're like, the results can be disastrous.
When I got married, my husband and I spent almost three hours with our DJ - we talked about what we did and didn't like. He also spent time with us compiling two lists "must play" and "Do not play." Like you, I am not a fan of cheesy, trite wedding songs, so we had a pretty comprehensive "do not play" list. But by the end of our meeting, he had a good feel for our tastes, and our reception music was exactly what we wanted.
I hope that helps!
2007-02-08 01:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by sylvia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they are out there. Just make sure when you go into an interview with a potential DJ, that they know what you want and that it's a condition of their being hired. I am also getting married in October, and my fiance and I have already made most of our play lists. We really just needed the DJ to look over everything and do some emcee work...and he has no problem with that.
Of course, my fiance and I did take into consideration the tastes of our guests. We're not picking a bunch of obscure songs that only we like. (Well, maybe one or two!) And he definitely has a "do not play" list, but he does have his stock music for other requests.
2007-02-08 01:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just shop around. Any DJ should be willing to take your playlist and let you know if they have the music or can get it. I know for a fact that most DJ's will accept "banned music" lists for weddings -- there are just some things you don't want to hear anymore!
In the end... it's your money. Find the DJ who is willing to work with your terms to earn his contract fee playing only your selected music. It might not be as hard as you think!
2007-02-08 01:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope not...because I just sent out a list of songs for my DJ. I cannot stand average wedding music. We actually listed that on the "don't play" list. Our DJ sent out paperwork to fill out for dances, songs we don't want played, & songs we do want played. I alsoattached a list since we had around 20 songs we 100% sure wanted played. Plus, we listed favorite artist. I think a good DJ is willing to work for the client. When you call to speak to DJ's, ask about this as well. I'd honestly stay clear of any DJ who told you no on this.
2007-02-08 09:54:56 · answer #7 · answered by layla983 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found a DJ (that works for a large company) that has his own service on the side. He used his equipment and I gave him a list of what I wanted and he played it in the exact order I wanted. We didn't do the "traditional" wedding songs either. I found instrumentals of Elvis (i love him lol) songs and Kenny G and things that i just really liked that normally aren't used for weddings. He played all of it without a problem. My reception didn't involve dancing or anything (my husband is paralyzed and i can't and i just don't) so we played music so others could dance and just to have a background sound... he made cds in the exact order I wanted the songs played and just popped them in. So yes it has been done and I don't think it's offensive... just talk to them about it before you hire them. It's your wedding day and they should be willing to do whatever you want as long as you pay them what they want.
2007-02-08 03:05:20 · answer #8 · answered by akp_02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sylvia is dead on with her answer.
Making a "play list" & "do not play list" is basic mobile DJing 101, if your DJ does not cover this in your consultation, do not hire that DJ.
Spend plenty of planing time with your DJ, if you don't, you will probably wish you had.
Remember the longer your two lists are, the better your DJ will know if a guest's song request is appropriate, or not.
2007-02-08 08:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Rosco Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can. If you are paying for a service you are required to get the service that you want. Its common business practice.
Speak to your DJ, I would suggest meeting with at least 3, the one that gives you the best feeling is who you should choose.
Good luck
2007-02-08 01:43:13 · answer #10 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋