how do i know if i love him?

Question

Its m first proper relationship...im 17 he's 20 he means everything to me....im on anti depressants at mo, finindg things hard and just dont know how to pick myself up. He's so supportive an he says i am when hes down...was just wondering how do you know its love?? I guess im having doubts as it i my first proper relationship?????

I hate having these doubts, it gets me really really down and i can't stand hurting him...
Please help

Been going out for 6 months now

Answer 1

If you don't know if you love someone or not then you don't.

Answer 2

First of all are you sleeping with him, I hope not because you are unsure if you really love him. Secondly loving someone is a choice or a better way of putting it a commitment you make to someone to be there for them no matter what!! Its not a oh today I care tomorrow when I'm having a bad day I'll take it out on him then the next day maybe it will be better. You have to love yourself before you can accept love from anyone. You have to see in yourself why they love you. You need to be real honest with him about what you are feeling and if he wants to be there with you why you go through these feelings he obviously does love you so accept it and be happy about it. Don't look for problems or create them allow yourself to be happy. You both need to talk about where you see your relationship going and what your intentions are, and what love is to you. By the bibles standards love is patience, kindness, understanding forgiving, gentleness, mildness, not keeping account of wrongs, not looking out for ones own interests, not getting provoked, and many other important things but the two of you have to have the same knowledge of what love is. It's called being equally yoked with someone. If two people honestly love each other they can make it through anything!!

Answer 3

firstly age doesnt seem to matter too much as its expeirences that u go through make u the person u r! i can c just by ur wording that u r a very wise yet confused young girl, dont worry about love or life so much as urll have alot of harder times to endure as u get older!
the fear of just hurting this person upsets u, so clearly u feel very strongly about them but if u were in love with them u would honestly know it, u would feel that nothing else at all in life matters, n also u wouldnt b on antidepresants because u would feel such a burst of happiness especially as u have bin together only a few months. start to sort ur life out and ur own mental state before moving to the next stage or even doin something u could regret. the reason u r having doubts n r so unsure about everything is because u feel so strongly for him and of the reality u r currently expeierncing, please do not hassel urself with thoughts like that, they really arent needed. focus on urs n his realationship n try n get him to help u! u sed hes very supportive....so hes worth keeping, he obviously wants to b with u n make things last, time is always a gud story teller n a very great heeler! dont expect to b with this guy for the rest of ur life, but on the other hand dont expect that ur not going to b!! take every single day as it comes and always remember this.......memories r always there, but the pain does fade!!! this is my favourite quote n it has got me through alot of hard times.
i hope all goes well for u
take care of urself
xx

Answer 4

Why do you have to know for sure. What will you do diff. if you know it's love. Stop spending time trying to classify your feelings. Spend your time enjoying the feelings you ARE having. You seem to be putting too much effort on a part of the relationship that WILL work itself out as the relationship matures.6 months is not a long relationship. Before I was married, my wife and I were together for about 5yrs. We have been married for over 2yrs now and my feelings for her grow stronger everyday. What I am saying is simply enjoy your time together. Just enjoy it.

Answer 5

If you really feel like that, if you feel that when you are with him the others doesn't exist, nothing can hurt you any more...it really seems to be your first real love... Try to make your doubts clear, ask yourself about the source that they might had (you two have argued or sth.) and if you love him you can be sure that after "brain-storming" a little about the couses of your doubts, you will be completely sure about what you feel... Good luck !

Answer 6

you just know! dont worry about it though and dont question it. If your happy to be with and feel comfortable then be with him. It sounds like your a little confused about things at the moment and maybe having a few problems with other parts of your life and this man is suportive and cares for you. do you really have to decide right know if you love him. He must be happy with the way your relationship is at the moment or he wouldnt have stood by you the way he has.

Answer 7

If you have doubts it's not love.
When it's love, you 'just know', it's a feeling not a thought. It's as if everything just fits into placce and nothing else matters. When it's for real, you will know. Dont try to rush it, when your ready it will just happen.
You probably really like this guy, and thats great. But dont confuse that for realy love.

Answer 8

Pittter Patter, Pitter Patter!

Answer 9

Usually if you ask yourself “am I in love?’ it means you’re not, because when you’re fallen in love you already have no questions, this feeling is to obvious to leave any doubts. So it’s more reasonable to count the consequences of it than to look for the signs.


You can’t stop thinking of your object, he/she stays on your mind when you’re working, spending time with friends, jogging in the morning or relaxing in evening. The vision of your object is haunting your mind like a ghost and it never works when you tell yourself not to think of him or her. You remember all the time spent together, every single word, gesture and look.


Lovesickness can be compered with feather: you’re either flying high, all filled with enthusiasm and energy, that when people around start to wonder if you’re in love or you’re deeply depressed, indifferent, nervous, don’t see in life any bright sides. No third variant is possible. You sleep as a baby or suffer from insomnia. You shine and think you’re the best or feel miserable and unattractive. You are afraid to leave phone for a moment because you sure that’ll be the moment he or she will be calling.


Nothing makes a person happier when he/she realises that the feeling is mutual. People in love look better, feel better and attract more attention from the people of the other sex than they are in their normal state. When you are in love single look of your object, anything that gives you the slightest hope – and you’re already somewhere above sky.


Falling in love without reciprocity seems to be a tragedy and the end of the world. Of cause it’s not and it will pass but try to tell the one who is so unfortunately in love! Gloomy face, giving up all the everyday duties or on the opposite trying to get rid of the feeling in energetic activity – these are the signs of person in love either. Some people just can’t deal with the intense of emotions. People with unbalanced psychics can even have some suicidal ideas. But this cases are rare.

Falling in love makes you a dreamer. You see you both on the first date, long before it takes place, imagine the time you will spend together, some women start dreaming of a house and kids.


You are ready to work on yourself because your object is worth only the best. You may start a diet or go to a fitness club. Women buy tonnes of cosmetics, fill the wardrobe with new clothes. But when you’re sure that your object won’t be there you may start being rather negligent to your appearance because you’re simply not interested in anyone’s else attention.


You may start to annoy your friends with endless talks about what he ore she’s done or said. And you may notice that people around are looking at you with some mix of envy and compassion. A person in love always looks a little bit crazy and different to the others and we usually think that he/she’s totally mindless but “look at him/he” – he/she’s so very happy. When you’re in love your own problems don’t matter a thing, you don’t even notice them, but the one sad sigh of the object and the word starts ruining for you.


Falling in love is based on some chemical processes (not only on them of course), but they are the reason for the euphoria, trembling knees, heartbeating, temperature rises, loosing breath and mind at one time. These processes even change the smell of your body. In general they work like come psycho stimulators and you’re willing to see and to hear your object in search of a new portion of that sharp feeling. By the way each time we keep busy doing something we like (hobby or favourite occupation) the similar processes start in motion.


So if you find yourself in love enjoy that felling because pleasure not only makes us happy but gives us that happy look that attracts people and luck.

Answer 10

Do you constantly think about him in a non-sexual way? Do you wonder what the future together is going to be like together? If so, you maybe in love.

Answer 11

If you love being around him, if your heart beats faster when you're around him, generally if you can't stop looking at him or wanting to be around him. If it's love, you'll probably know, and not just that you like him.