Hello everyone my son is 16 months old and i am ready to go back to work...i have gotten really attached and im so scared...im jus afraid they will not feed him the way i do or warm up his food and bottles the way i do...am i over reacting??? please help if any moms have kids in daycare???
2007-02-08 01:34:41 · 9 answers · asked by kimberly c 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
no you are not over reacting at all, it is tough letting your little one go. i work in a daycare and i have seen people cry when they left their little one for the first time. just look at a couple of daycares first. schedule an appointment so you can go see the facility. ask alot of questions, look around and see what type of enviorment your child will be in. dont settle for a daycare until you feel completely secure leaving your child there. also bring your son with you to see how he will react and interact with the other children and the teachers there. if your son is on a schedule, write it down and give it to them. they might not be able to follow it to the t , but they will incorporate it with the daycares schedule. thats what we do at the daycare i work. because you cant tend to just one child at a time, we work as a group. and before you know it your child become adapted to the daycare schedule. anything you may have to bring to the daycare for your son, label everything! spoons, bibs, blankets, package of wipes and diapers, bottles etc. when your son starts, feel free to call the daycare during the day, they will tell you how your son is doing. also this is important, during your appointment ask them if it is ok to stop by during the day to check on your son, because anyone is supposed to be able to stop by. they should say yes, if they dont i wouldnt send him. really people dont do that, but it show that the place isnt hiding anything. you will know when you have found the right place. i hope this helps good luck to you and your little sorry i have to leave for work now i could keep going on and on.!!!
2007-02-08 01:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by missaboo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the social interaction will be good for him.
show up and check on him at random times.
put others on his "OK to pick up" list and have THEM check on him at random times... several times per week.
the daycare staff should know you will show up to check on him and they should know that it could be at any time.
If you show up to check and the staff alerts the workers that you are coming.... i would be nervous.
you can (and need to) check on him from a distance without him seeing you.... so it wont upset him. Youll feel better knowing he is being taken care of as you want him to.
and if you get bad vibes at all... get a new daycare.
kids love playing with other kids, so he will be happy.
daycare is a good thing, but you are being a good mother to be protective
2007-02-08 01:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Jillary von Hämsterviel™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is going to be really hard for you to let your baby be taken care of by someone else that's normal, but I just wanted to let you know that I did a working interview at a daycare when I was 18 and I was absolutely amazed at how the people there took their jobs so seriously. They were really into making sure they kept the same schedule that the parents did. Also they were extremely clean they always washed and sanitized everything in the room after feedings and diaper changes. Also they would keep a record of how many diapers the child went through a day, how long they took a nap, how much they ate and gave the parents a report at the end of the day. I was really impressed on how they made sure parents felt comfortable leaving their children there. I hope this helped!
2007-02-08 02:32:52 · answer #3 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it will be easier if you just accept that they WON"T do things the way you do, but they'll try. That will make him love you even more.
They are going to probably make him more independent. Most rooms with 16 month olds use sippy cups, not bottles, so you might need to work on getting him weaned off the bottle. Also, they will do mostly self-feeding, not baby food. Work on making him a toddler - he's close to being 2!
It will be good for him and you to get to know other people. He will learn to trust others, to be more independent, he'll probably get sick a lot in the beginning since he hasn't been exposed to many germs before now, but then he'll be really healthy. He will love it, all the games and songs and new things to do and see, and he will begin to learn to play with other children.
Good luck - remember the first week is the hardest!
2007-02-08 01:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by tabs8 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your main focus is to make sure you have found the right provider if you don't feel she is right forget it and keep looking. Don't get your self too worked up about the little things because then your really going to have stress for you and your baby. Try and look for a home daycare most home daycares are more family oriented and tend to have smaller amounts of children most likely better care. Good luck
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2007-02-08 11:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by BabyDolll128 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had to put my daughter in daycare when she was 3 months old. I only had to do it 2 days a week at first, but now she is 16 months and she has to go full time because my schedule changed at work. Don't worry! You will be fine and so will your son! Just make sure you express your concerns to the teachers. Make sure you feel comfortable with them. Nobody is ever going to do things the way "mom" does, but he will be just fine!
2007-02-08 01:39:46 · answer #6 · answered by tmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had similar concerns. I was always worried about the little things and as my son got older I've realized those things don't really matter. As long as they watch him and play with him, feed him and he's happy that's all that matters. It will be good for him to be around other children too. We chose to go with a center that focuses on education. I would visit different places and get a feel for the place. Ask a lot of questions and you can always write down the way you want things done and they'll follow them. They want your business and they should do what's best for you.
2007-02-08 01:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by Trisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well they wont do things exactly like you, but they will take good care of him. taking a child to daycare to for the first time is harder on the parent than the child. my oldest son was in daycare for a couple years. he would scream every time i left for about a month but the lady said he would always stop as soon as i was out of sight! lol! every day care provider will do things slightly different than you do, but your son will adjust just fine! plus he will get to be around other kids his age which can only be good for him! i know its so hard at first, but everyhting will be fine!
2007-02-08 01:43:12 · answer #8 · answered by massmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cut costs, quit your job, work from home doing something and keep him at home. you'll be glad you did.
2007-02-08 01:50:59 · answer #9 · answered by TB28 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋