We were goods friends before we started dating,it seems we fell for each other the day we met but were not certain whether the other felt the same, when he finally surfaced his feelings and found out i feel the same way, we bonded since then. And believe we truly love each other, same age, both working, both don't have a car, he give me the love, respect, appreciation and acceptance that i deserve.Same thing about me, he wnats to spend the rest of his life with me, but we are not yet ready financially to get married and he's afraid of losing me not that he doesnt trust me, but he's just insecure of losing his princess. I suggested we go for counselling which he agrees to. Any opinions???? I love him big time.
2007-02-08 01:33:58 · 7 answers · asked by Phenomenal woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're going to be emotionally holding this guy's hand for your whole life. Eventually it will grow stale and confining. I suggest you rethink your commitment to a man that is so "needy".
There is solid evidence that needy men turn into serial abusers, when the object of their affection doesn't reciprocate their feelings in the degree that they expect to receive.
I agree that this man needs counselling.
Good luck. I honestly hope that you never have any reason to wish you had never met him.
2007-02-08 01:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the insecure one in my relationship, so I can have an idea where he's coming from.
My partner and I just seem to have an arrangement that when I'm feeling insecure, I can tell him, and he can take a moment to be reassuring. I can't go overboard with it and be all controlling -- he still gets to do what he chooses. But I can ask for reassurance and get it, which goes a long way toward security.
A counselor can go a long way toward working out feelings of insecurity, helping identify the root cause and making it better. If you're both willing and able to seek help, I'd say it's a good route.
2007-02-08 09:39:31 · answer #2 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know my partner knows that I love them, but the same insecurities surface....so couples counseling it is! We have been able to get to the root of the problem, which isn't there insecurity about me, but childhoood stuff for them.....you are both worth it and so is the relationship. Go for it!
2007-02-08 09:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by Rhonda M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit him down and tell him that he's ur prince lol and if he was so worried about you going off with some other guy you would have done it already. Tell him you've chosen him, that you love him and that because of that you will wait.
2007-02-08 09:40:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other the way you are... regardless of you financial status.... I believe even in marriege it will be the same. Assure him by getting married regardless.
2007-02-08 09:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by butty-real-tiuos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww
omg i totally understand..my bf doesnt want to lose his "princess" too. lol! But last night I made him repeat to me "you will always love me" over and over again just to boost his confidence. It sounds real CORNY and it is..lol...but still..it should tell him that i am sincere about him!
you can talk to me if you want. :)
Good luck!! :) :)
counseling sounds good!
2007-02-08 09:39:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its something that he needs to change in himself ---- he needs to trust you totally --- i trust my lady --- she is a long way from me and could have any man she chooses --- she chose me --- so he should look at it the same way --- that you chose him and no one else if you did not want to be with him you would not ---- my best wishes to you both
2007-02-08 09:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋