help PLEASEEEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Well...my bf and I are "attempting" to have sex. Everytime we start to, I get psychologically scared of the pain (yes my first time) and I begin to close up. I am really really tight too...it's really hard for him to enter. He says it even hurts him a lil when he tries to penetrate me because I am so tight. AFter that..he tries to "loosen" me up by using his fingers...but for even that I have closed up! It hurts and burns even if he just touches me! I am so confused...what do I do to not freak out so much? Im just really really scared of the pain...?! I freak out and scream and scare my bf... (im 18..so im not some lil girl..just so you know...) please help! serious answers only please! If any girl is willing to talk too..that would be nice. How do I stop the pain from stopping me?!! I dont want answers that say..ur not ready or something..and im not being pressured. so thanx :)

:) Thanx for your help!

Answer 1

Hmm you cleary don't feel comfortable try some foreplay spice things up, get him to kiss you caress your body, it will get you wet, cuddle talk sexy to each other, you need to feel sexy, just be comfortable with yourself, it will be great once its more apealing to you and yu won't even think about the pain you've got to really want it mind and body.
Also My first time didn't hurt I didn't bleed, because I was happy comfortable and things where flowing beautifuly.

Answer 2

You're 18. In some states that is a legal adult. Go buy yourself a vibrator and use it. It will get you used to having large things "up there". Trust me...once you have experienced a few orgasms you will no longer feel scared about having those things inserted.

You may also have a problem with fabricating sufficient lubricant on your own. Buy a tube of KY lubricant. Try the gentle heat one. These can make all the difference between having enjoyable sex, and being in constant pain.

And please don't forget the contraception, and STD protection. Birth control pills, condoms, and spermacidal foam should all be used to keep sex enjoyable and guilt free.

Answer 3

ok well if his fingers are bothering you tel him to wash his hands before you do anything he probably has a high acidity level which would explain the burning when he uses his fingers. And get him to give you a massage to really relax make the mood right candles insence even meditate if you want. use lube and even if you were not going 2 use a condom it can help alot. just try to relax and think this is awesome im going to remember this the rest of my life. I'll be honest it may hurt some girls do, but it is more common not to hurt you will be fine trust me

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and just so you know what some1 said to you that it will hurt and will bleed is not true.

Answer 4

Mmmmmm well i read your question. I can only advise ..You go and see your doctor,maybe they can help with medication give you a check up or refer counselling ..


Or an other way is go slow at the whole love makeing thing ( maybe your rushing it ) Its not just jump on and away he goes.. no wander your stressed out ...you will no when the time is right for him enter you ,within your own sexual desire... Lots of touching and kissing talk about it to each other let your partner know how you f

Answer 5

well basically it's going to hurt regardless if u do it. it always does cuz ur walls are very tight n in order to loosing them up is to insert his thingy. it's gonna hurt and ur gonna bleed afterwards and it's natural for that to happen. so try to tuffin up and try it. it won't hurt all the time just the first couple of times u do the naughty. so i hope this helps n if u still have questions feel free to email me sweety cuz i'm 18 too!!

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