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we try to help them but they say go away i;ll do it my self

2007-02-08 01:29:09 · 27 answers · asked by julies 1 in Health Mental Health

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2007-02-11 13:37:36 · answer #1 · answered by kermit_is_dead_rip 3 · 0 0

I'm in the teen aged group, and usually the reason why teens are hard to speak to is because the parent doesn't quite understand how to go about talking to the teenager. It's the fact that teens are much more watchful at what you do than what you try to tell them. So, before ever trying to butt in to tell them it's wrong listen first odds are that the teen already knows what you're about to say, It's like listening to a broken record over and over again.

If your opinions seem to not matter at all to your teen then take some time to look at their view point and take an angle to the argument that is closer related to their feelings. Always think of their feelings before saying anything, because life can be extremely ruff at high schools and they'd rather not hear a broken record after a terribly tiring day.

Lastly, try to get into casual talks at home. Maybe while your teen is doing chores or getting ready for the day take about five minutes of your time to speak with him or her. But don't force it on them by making them listen, because weather they want to or not they'll hear you.

And keep your cool. Don't blow up at something you teen says, because they're probably thinking of that same old broken record again and will be skeptical. Your progress in this field will be slow, so patience is the key. Good luck!

2007-02-08 10:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by Double_Eleven 2 · 1 0

I guess you are a parent of teenagers?

I am 32 and do not have any. I do however always try to remember how it felt to be one - a lot of the time being a teenager is stressful and not fun. Everything feels so much more intense and urgent. This also can feel very good however.

Do you not remember thinking that your parents' understood nothing and you knew everything? Be truthful!

As with all people you wish to communicate with you must try and see the world from their point of view and try to have empathy with them.

Do not patronise or talk down to them - try and treat them as adults as much as possible.

2007-02-08 17:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by stevieR 1 · 1 0

I think it depends to what sort of teenagers we are dealing here with. For example what problems they have. What background there are from. Their personalities. Every teenagers are different. Every individual are different. So talking to them, you have to take an individual approach. I think the best way is trying to get to know them. Talking is a good start. Try to start with a simple subject. If they are not talking, dont take that as a rejection as a whole. They are probably just not ready to talk. Give them some time. Dont give them the impression that you are pushing them. And try again when you think its could be the right time to talk.

2007-02-08 01:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by WONDER GIRL 1 · 1 0

Teenagers have always been hard to talk to, or at least since the 1960s when our culture started to place so much emphasis on youth. Some parents have open communication with teenagers but this seems to be rare. I remember being intensly embarrased by my parents when I was a teenager. I think they have a lot of conflicting emotions--they strongly desire to be adults but, at the same time, they aren't sure if they are ready.

2007-02-08 01:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by majnun99 7 · 1 0

I am an adult and I still don't really listen to my parents. I listened to them less as a teen though. I think... I just felt like they wanted to control me you know? Like their advise was just them beeing bossy. I wanted to learn on my own, to have my own expieriences. It's funny though, cause even though I didn't listen listen, I still heard them. For instance, I was always in at curfew and if something happened and I couldn't be, I always called home. I never got into the drug scene my friends were in and I stayed a virgin tell 18. I didn't start drinking tell 20, and that was only cause I was living in the UK between 19 and 22 and they have an age of 18 to drink. So I guees maybe...saying all of that, kids take in stuff even if they arn't "listening" so just be there for them.

2007-02-08 01:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by aboveparrequestrian 2 · 1 0

I think teens want to be heard more than anything...they are confused and they don't trust adults. It's a lifetime of work, you need to talk to them, guiding them, supporting them and giving them self confidence from when they are young. That is why the first 5 yrs of a child's life is the the most important! Parents should make sure that those formative years the child is building charecters like honesty, trust, love, sharing, compassion and is diciplined.

2007-02-08 01:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

I've got news for you, teenagers are no harder to talk to then they ever were. Were you the perfect teenager who always listened to their parent's advice without question? I sure wasn't. It 's called what goes around, comes around. When my children were teenagers, I saw myself as a teenager in them. Of course, I didn't tell them that. Now that they are grown, I tell them and let them know that one day they too will be wondering "why don't teenagers ever listen to us, why do they think they know everything and we know nothing."

2007-02-08 01:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Debbie H 2 · 1 0

The answer to that is in yourself did you ever listen to anyone between 13-18. at 18 kids come back to there parents, boys more to there mother and girls to there father. It's the greatest feeling when the doors stop slamming and they ask for advice, after being gobsmacked life as a family returns. best you did was ask people like you have you will get loads of answers here I'm sure one will suit you. welcome to having kids. lol.

2007-02-08 01:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by mikey_mossom 2 · 1 0

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2016-12-17 05:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I am 38, but as a child, my feelings didn't vaiidate my feelings and my old man is paying for it.. Adults needs to realized that once upon a time, they were kids. These people who forget that, when in a nursing home, wonder why their kids aren't visiting them. I would love to ask these parents, rude to their kids in the past, if they'd visit them if they were their kids.

2007-02-08 01:50:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

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