I know some of you might say why play games. But in this situation I do with this particular guy. He is an ex and I am going to decline ever in the future getting back with him, and politely say that we should just be friends"!. He he messed me about in the past due to his inability to commit then. But said that I was perfect for him. I KNOW he is going to want me back now that I am moving on!
But I just want him to see what he has lost! or could have had!
He still calls me sometimes, he called me the other day to see how I was doing in my new job as I am progressing very well! so if and when he does call shall I just act polite, happy. I want him to see what he had.
No negative comments please just ideas as to how you can make someone realise what they have lost. Or what would make you realise?
Thanks
Some people say that if you ignore or have an attitude it shows that you are still hung up or not over them?
2007-02-08 01:25:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The fact that you feel you have to show him this is not a good sign that you HAVE moved on.
Remaining friends is the best way to let him see what he is missing.
You do not have to prove anything to him or anybody. In time he will realize that you have moved on.
Get on with life and enjoy yourself that is the best thing you could do.
Good Luck
2007-02-08 01:44:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was in the same boat not too long ago.. This guy broke my heart and I wanted nothing but to be with him. Then after a long while the pain went away...then like you, I was ready for him to come back so I could decline! Time went by, I got a new man, then one late night he called! He left a message for me to call him back, etc. I believe that the best way is to ignore him! I know it sounds bad, but seriously, if you do that leaves him wondering. He won't know what you're up to, he won't know how you're doing or if you're with anyone (have a bf) and that will drive him crazy... trust me, with not being with you he already knows what he has lost! Like they say... They always come back! --at least with all of my experiences. I'm tellin you, just act dead to his world and he will realize you're not at his beckoning call and realize he had a good thing. Eventually he will stop and move on, as we all do in time. But hopefully that will keep you fullfilled! Hope that helped a little!
2007-02-08 09:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cut the cord!! You're way too concerned with proving something to this guy who you claim you never want to be with again. My guess is that you're the one that will be stunned when you realize he's happily moved on. Guys play games all the time and love the concept that someone is 'waiting in the wings' for them. You're waiting on that call! If you can truly seperate yourself from your past feelings and get on with your amazing life he may be regretful at some point but it's doubtful he'll let you know that. I realize you haven't solicited negative feedback, but I just think you're going in the wrong direction. Good Luck
2007-02-08 09:34:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just go about your daily business and dont talk to him or try to be friends that will send a message that you still want him. Go on dates and show him yor living well, he will look for you and try to find out what your doing, once he sees that you wont talk or give him the time of day he will stop and realize. Living well is the revenge
2007-02-08 09:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by P_a94 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this may not be what you want to hear, but if you had really moved on you wouldn't be so concerned with what he is thinking or how he feels about things the way they are between you. My advice, make a point to truly move on. Whether he ever realizes what he missed out on is really not important to someone who has found fulfillment elsewhere.
2007-02-08 09:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by Scottie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is best to act happy around an ex. That will show him that he doesn't factor into your new, fabulous life. But don't talk to him too much — spend more time with your girlfriends. However, if you're the more vengeful type, you can just make out with his worst enemy in a place where he'll catch you.
2007-02-08 09:39:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to move on to, but dont know how to get it through my head.
Sometiems men say you were the best thing ever, so they can get some.
Get out of the game for good if thats what you are going to do.
Stop playing with him, it could turn bad.
Step out while you can.
He will realize in his own time, and you may not ever know he does, but why should you care?
2007-02-08 09:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by baby_rost 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really don't need to do anything - the best way to show you've moved on is to just move on and be honest. Be polite and keep the conversation short . . . tell him you appreciate the call but really don't have time to chit chat.
2007-02-08 09:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the best way is to simply fail to acknowledge that they exist. Get caller Id if you don't have it and don't pick up the calls. Eventually it will sink in and he should stop making the attempts.
2007-02-08 09:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by Doug B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly over him, you won't have time to be "showing him what he's missing out on".
You should not be wasting time talking to HIM about your new job, give all your time to your new guy, after you stop having time for him, he will get the message.
2007-02-08 09:34:08 · answer #10 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋