My ex-g/f (where still good friends), just have had her mother die on her. As for helping her with the proccess, what can I do?....I dont want to be too pushy and keep bugging her if she doesnt want to talk. But at the same time I want to know whats she thinking. Whats the best thing to do....
2007-02-08 01:24:11 · 10 answers · asked by witfullsparrow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-02-11 05:57:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best you can do is let her know you're available. She should already know that, but it's never a bad thing to re-affirm your place in her life.
Do not be pushy. Do not pry her for information. Realize that she is likely emotionally vulnerable. When I went through this, a female friend was my biggest supporter and I weakly fell for her...didn't turn out so well, so be careful of that.
You can gracefully ask how she's doing, or even try to help her remember the good times. Being there is something that she will be thankful for for the rest of her life. Losing a parent is something that takes a long time to get over, if ever.
2007-02-08 02:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by lostinne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time. but let her know you are there for her. death is hard when you were close to that person. She may need space or she may not. I can tell you that from my own experience I now know who my true friends are. and they are not the people that I thought would be here for me. Take her out to help her forget a little but it is ok to talk about her mom. if you knew her mom talk about a good memory you two had together about her.
2007-02-08 03:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there for her even if she does not want to talk at all... Do small things to make her feel a reason to look to the future, and allow her time to morn...
It is natural to want to feel like you have to be doing something but most of the time, just being there is all she will need from you... Along with some words at appropriate times to cheer her up...
Best wishes to you and her both...
2007-02-08 02:19:44 · answer #4 · answered by CJ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be there for her and tell her if she needs anything that you are there. stay by her side, but if she does not want to talk, let her be, just knowing that you are in the room will help. she needs the love and the support now than ever.you can take her to the funeral home so she can make arrangements. which is not going to be easy, its very hard to let go with someone you love so much. be there when she picks out an outfit for her. sorry about her loss.
2007-02-08 01:48:33 · answer #5 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will just have to be patient with her. It is a grieving process that she will have to go threw on her on. Some days will be better than others, and then she will have a tough day. Just be there to listen when she needs to talk. For lack of something to say people will tell you it will be OK, your Mom is better off, but this is not something she wants to hear now. It is better to say nothing and listen to her. Let her know you are there is she needs to talk other than that, nothing will help right now.
2007-02-08 01:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by krisi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It relies upon on how previous you're and what state you're in. you elect an recommend/legal expert. attempt to benefit out of your kinfolk who's executor of your mum and dad sources. meaning in the event that they have a will. in the event that they do no longer, the court docket will hire a parent while you're a minor. in the event that they do, then whoever the legal expert who seems and then will could be useful. For superb now, merely wait and stay together with her till finally you are able to desire to recover from the marvel. i'm so so sorry on your terrible loss.
2016-11-02 21:23:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and let her know that you are concerned for her as a friend and would love to provide a shoulder for her to lean on. The rest is up to her.
2007-02-08 01:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by brazilian76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you offer your sympathy and let her know you're there for her that's the best you can do. She'll seek out those she trust when she's ready. Your concern will be appreciated I'm sure.
2007-02-08 01:30:37 · answer #9 · answered by kmv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her out to dinner.Send her flowers,Tell her you'll be there for her anytime she needs you.
2007-02-08 01:48:54 · answer #10 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋