The roughness of life?

Question

So, I am physically disabled, have no problem attracting women, but once I expose myself, like take my clothes off, it ends right there. Yeah, my skinniness and the hole in my chest astonish them.

Although I am not a virgin, I can't seem to be accepted the way I am. Plus, these are some of the things I hear at school from both females and male:

" Why do you ever fall for a disabled person? You deserve better."

" You are wasting your time. They're lots of healthy people out there, so why get involved with a disabled person imtimately?"

" OH My God, you must be crazy. I mean, you are not sane."

So, it seems as if we " Disabled" are like monsters. We aren't considerd Humans, and we don't need love. That is correct, right?

Anyway, girls know I am physically disabled, but there is something about me that keeps attracting them, but once my skinniness and the hole in my chest get exposed, I will get dumped.

Let me hear your thoughts.

Lord have mercy on me.

Answer 1

Unfortunately people can be mean.... You are not a monster. Keep your chin up. It sounds like you have are a great guy (hence the fact you keep attracting all the ladies). Give it time, when you least expect it you will find your woman - the one who loves you inside and out. I am sure God will bless you with a woman who doesn't even see your disability - she will only see the goodness of you.

Answer 2

Is this a serious question? If so, I am disbaled. I was born with a disability and have 5 brothers and sister who were born without. It's always been a problem but you deal and get through it. I've been happily married for 18 yrs. The right person is out there for you, dont give up. Maybe join groups where people have similar disabilities. Good luck

Answer 3

If you are in school you are probably still relatively young and young people don't always get the big picture it takes time on this earth to gain insight I can guarantee that there IS a special lady out there who will love you for you and not you physical attributes or lack of so be patient some people are selfish and mean, never mind them they know not what they say I have seen MANY disabled men with beautiful awesome kind caring lady's that obviously love them for more than appearance you are going to be jest fine you will find that special lady I promise god need not have mercy for you you have done nothing wrong he will guide you Thur the tough times be strong and patient your blessings are coming with guys that have lots of money and or good looks they always wonder is she with me for my money or because I look good and if so when some other guy with more money or better looks comes along will she leave me for him BUT when you get matched up with a lady and you will, you will know that she loves YOU for who YOU are not your looks or your money and you will be happier that the other guy will ever be it will be so awesome to know that you girl loves you for you not your money or hot body remember looks fade and money can come and go but true love is forever and priceless.

Answer 4

Life is rough! But when you cross paths when the one 'intended for you' it won't be such a big issue that you're disabled. You're obviously an intelligent and sensitive guy that knows how to communicate. That's half the battle. I suggest you take more time getting to know a woman before trying to establish a physical relationship. It'll add to your sense of security and give you a chance to broach the subject of your disabilities. You need to make the woman you're with aware of what to expect and find out about their attitudes before trying to form a lasting relationship. Eventually you'll find someone with the maturity level necessary to accept you and the realities of life. Good Luck

Answer 5

Life is funny.

I have some money, looks, respect, am fairly buff, have an interesting life, I'm a nice guy, and in nine months of being single, zero dating possibilities.

I think you should be honest, say that you are very self conscious about your skinniness, and maybe not bring up having a hole in your chest, and insist on keeping a shirt on. It will make you a little mysterious. Which is good.

Answer 6

some girls are mean. but it honestly, takes a girl with a big heart to accept you with your disability. i guess girls think that if they can barely take care of themselves how can they handle someone with disabilities. i dont know im just especulating here. honestly i dont have a great or good anwer as to why it happpens and how to fix it. keep in mind that disability its an even worse extent of imperfection. its unfair but theres not much you can do about it. except wait and hope that a girl will finally see past that. i wish the best and god bless.

Answer 7

I Kind Of Know What Its Like. My Sister Was Born With Clef Lip and Clef Pallete. She has Just Entered High school At a Very Judgemental School. Daily i have to help her get through because people decide because she's disabled, she has to be picked on. She can get boyfriends, but she says they nevver kiss because of her lip. We Just live in a Tooo judgemental world for things to actually work for people like you and my sister. i hope you have many wonderful days.

~X.D.R.

Answer 8

You will find the right girl and one who will love you for you! Do not get discouraged! Everyone feels this way sometimes, like the right person is not out there! But, do not be discouraged! She will come along! People that are really worth giving your love to, do not expect you to be anything but you! If they listen to others, they are not worth it! People can be cruel, but I assure you that some very nice and real girls do exist! You sound wonderful and I know you will find that girl you are seeking!

Answer 9

hey never ask for the thing u dont need and never beg for mercy to any one
as i think u dont need mercy bcoz its not ur fault that u r disabled its gods mistake
he will do what evr he would like to do when the time comes
so till then dont wory
all the best
my dear

Answer 10

Yeah, a lot of girls put physical characteristics first. All I can say is that you will find a great girl and also, try telling them ahead of time so that they aren't shocked by your manliness!