It seems as if, whenever I ask my bf questions he gt all angry and says that I'm "interigating" him. But I simply ask questions. He'll get made and frustrated.
How do you ask a guy questions without getting all the "anger" back? I'not doing a very well job.
Whenever I ask a question about something that deals with cheating, or why he's out all night, or seem to catch him a lie he get's all loud and starts yelling. Like he wants to pick a fight.
Is there any way to question a guy without having an arguement? And why is he like this?
2007-02-08 01:10:26 · 10 answers · asked by SEXY LOVE 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think it shows insecurity when a guy gets mad just cause their girlfriend is asking them questions regarding cheating. He probably feels guilty about something. On the other hand, if you've been asking it like a hundred times then i can see how a guy can get annoyed. But he shouldn't get that mad. It shows how bad of a boyfriend he is. If he's annoyed, he should just tell you, in a calm tone.
No one deserves to be treated like that just because they asked their boyfriend a few questions. who does he think he is? In a relationship, you should be able to talk about anything with your boyfriend. Tell him how you feel about him shouting at you. And you're not interrogating him. I think he may be saying that because he's hiding something. Just tell him you do not deserve to be treated that way and he better change soon.
2007-02-08 01:18:15 · answer #1 · answered by christi815 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is getting mad at you for asking questions, it is one of two things:
1. You are ALWAYS asking questions and being a nag. If he is doing nothing wrong, it is going to be irritating. Give him a break! How would YOU feel if you were doing nothing wrong and constantly were being accused of cheating and such?
2. He is GUILTY. When a man (or woman) is guilty of cheating, they will often act angry. He is likely trying to switch the emphasis on his cheating back onto you, making YOU the bad guy. But you are not. HE is the one that is a cheat. What he is doing in this scenario is WRONG.
Judging by your statements that he stays out all night, I think that #2 is the most likely truth, but I cannot say for sure. Fact is, there HAS to be a REASON you are asking him about cheating on you. Think about it. Is there? Either way, if he is getting angry, then it is part way HIS problem. Maybe he has an anger problem. He should get help learning how to act like a mature man. There is no reason to pick a fight when you ask him stuff. I'll tell you my honest opinion: I think you can do better. Maybe it is time to let this loser go and move on. All guys are not like this, and you should not have to be abused.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 01:22:03 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest that he is cheating and using the anger to deflect your questions --- no one should go on like that ---- you are doing nothing wrong and you are doing a good job --- he is the one at fault so please stop thinking you are and of course you should be able to ask questions and get a sensible answer without him getting angry --- if he wont talk then maybe you need to think about moving on ---- best wishes to you
2007-02-08 01:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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The problem is not you.
The problem is that you're asking the RIGHT questions and he feels defensive.
Men often act this way when feeling cornered by women.
Use your intuition because what you feel is right.
If he can't admit to his whereabouts, etc.. then he doesn't respect you, doesn't respect the relationship, and doesn't care of the status of your relationship.
If so, he'd be honest enough to resolve your curiosities.
This is coming from a guy, so I know.
Good luck!
2007-02-08 03:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by HottNikkels 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to ask him when he's not in a bad mood...
sometimes a it really is irritating when you're too tired and someone asks you such questions..
but if he's in a good mood and you ask him such question and he gets angry/irritated.. then theres something wrong with him... :)
2007-02-08 01:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by wil_ret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to be a downer but he probably is feeling guilty about something most likely he is cheating or trying to cheat
2007-02-08 01:18:21 · answer #6 · answered by Missty Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is acting that way because he is cheating on you. Leave.
2007-02-08 01:18:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys are just like that i am a guy give him some space
2007-02-08 01:40:32 · answer #8 · answered by tauntonkaleb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is the one with the problem, not you.
2007-02-08 01:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by staciesweet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like his defense is offense...
2007-02-08 01:20:02 · answer #10 · answered by roy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋