how do you tell somebody u dont like them without making them hate you?

Answer 1

Tell them in a nice way, make sure you first mention their good points, and make sure you tell in person so you can gauge their reaction and act/say accordingly. If you are respectful of their feelings and tell them in sincerety, the chance of them hating you is very miniscual.

Answer 2

This is a tough situation, but chances are good that your 'suitor' will appreciate your being upfront and honest about your feelings instead of misleading them. The response you've already received was a good one....to tell that person that you 'value' their friendship. I suggest that you also tell them that they just aren't right for you as a romantic partner and that you felt it best to tell them that on the front end to avoid any misunderstandings. It may come as a hard blow when you deliver the news initially, but when the dust settles they'll respect you for the manner in which you handled things. And as time goes on and you greet them in a civil manner they may truly become a good friend that you treasure. If you have any friends that you think would like them you can always make an introduction. You sound like a sensitive person that knows what you want. I hope it goes well.

Answer 3

Why don't you like them? What did they do to make you feel this way. If it's their personality that is offending you, or their choices, then you need to tell them that you have enjoyed your time as friends, but you feel that you need to move in a different direction with your life, and for them to keep in touch, this will get the point across without you being a total "B"

Answer 4

Well, since you don't like them why does it matter whether or not they hate you? Just come out and tell the person that you don't want to be around them and you'd rather not talk to them. You have nothing to lose except the stress that you are putting yourself through by not speaking up for yourself.

Answer 5

you know what you do
next time you see them, have a converastion visa versa, and out of now where just say
''you know what you are a good friend, i enjoy hanging out with you.
but i need to tell you that im not into you in any way except friendship.
im sorry but i just dont want to mess things up''.
yes they might get really upset with you, but just be honest, if they do like you, then they would not mind being friends, and they will just enjoy your company.
ok hun

good luck

Answer 6

just be nice and truthful about it without being brutaly honest. the way a person could end up hating you if you tell them that you dont like them is if your mean about it. if you're not mean, and they still end up despising you, its their own pride. i would suggest not to worry about it too much, 1-its not your fault, and 2-you cant let other people's brought on feelings affect you. especially if its not your fault.

Answer 7

Hey, i know exactly what you're going through. I have had to do the same exact thing to my friend Nick. He asked me out, and this what i did: i said, "Hey, i don't think i'm ready for a relationship, and i really value our friendship, so can we please just be friends for right now?" he answered, "Sure, i guess." He was a little sad for a couple of days, but then he got over it and we're still good friends.

Answer 8

Tell them you would rather be friends but that is the most important thing to you. If he really likes you he'll understand and he will feel lucky to at least be your friend.

Answer 9

You may not be able to. Just be honest and as kind as possible, but do not hedge. Straightforward is the only way to play it. Besides, if you don't like them, does it matter if they don't like you either?

Answer 10

If you don't like them why do you care if they hate you?