I hv 3 children and my hubby wants to file a divorce. he didn't call my children for more then two months, today my hubby's brother wife call me and she want my children to attend chinese years dinner with them, when I talk to my children they refuse to go, they said their father abandon them and their are not invited. what should I do?
2007-02-08 01:01:54 · 16 answers · asked by ICE 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
dont do anything. Listen to your children.for what you listen to your in law???
2007-02-08 01:08:17 · answer #1 · answered by Ms. Skellinton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you put in the head of your children regarding their father. He will always be their father, and whatever you say today may turn against you later. Also the in-laws should not meddle with the two of you, they don't know the real inside of your common life before separation and not even now. Always think before you act ; it's not because you don't get along anymore that the children should suffer and pay the price.
It seems to me that you're still angry with your ex, and this reflects on your children:: they were never meant to be in such a dilemma.
2007-02-08 01:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by kayneriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do you think they should go. Are u invited too . If not , it does not look good.
Then, if you like, Sit and have a talk with the children. Explain it is family. If need be they may be there.
I'd not force them. If they still disagree, call sis in law and tell her you tried and thank her politely. No other way.
2007-02-08 01:07:57 · answer #3 · answered by Mmmmm 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my parents got divorced, it was pretty much the end of my moms contact with my father.
What you might want to consider, is NOT forcing your little ones to go, but instead, on the day when they would have gone, make them a special dinner and ask them how they feel, assure them that things will get better, and that you will NEVER leave them. They need to feel like they have a parent they can count on, and thats you now.
Good luck
2007-02-08 01:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by mettophobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your kids make up their own mind. If they don't want to go, don't force them. If your hubby has a problem with this, tell him to start acting like a father and be there for the kids and MAYBE they'll want something to do with him. But let it be up to the kids to decide. Just always let them know you'll support whatever decision they make and that you love them.
2007-02-08 02:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by tandtfowkes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your children are important and what they want if they dont want to go dont force them or it may be you they turn on the children will see there father when they feel the time is right for them them them decide whats good for them
2007-02-08 01:07:14 · answer #6 · answered by stace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off your husband is an azz for the way he is treating the children. you can't make them want to spend time with him with the way he has been acting. And vice versa you cant make him want to be a part of your kids lives
2007-02-08 01:06:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the sister in law exactly what the children said....that they did not want to go and you're not going to force them to.
2007-02-08 01:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may go with your children for a last try. youir hubby might have change his mind. whatever may be the consequence, attend the dinner. who knows something good may happened.
2007-02-08 01:08:13 · answer #9 · answered by vijay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU BETTER SEND THEM TO CHINESE YEARS DINNER AT YOUR HUBBIES SIDE. JUST SENT THEM FOR ONE DAY. LET SAY IF U DONT SENT THEM, SURE THERE WILL BE A TROUBLE FROM YOUR HUBBIES SIDE. JUST ADVISE YOUR CHILDREN AND TELL THEM ONLY FOR ONE DAY. ANYWAY YOUR HUBBY STILL A FATHER FOR THEM .
2007-02-08 01:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by amadeus_denis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt say how old your children were , so I'm gathering they can make up their own minds. first of all let your sister in law , ask the children themself. and if they say no, don't force them. and this way if she asks they can't say you made them say no. they did it on their own. You cannot force them to go with their father, they feel abondand and the way it sound like he don't care. but its up to him to make amends in their life. good luck.
2007-02-08 01:09:24 · answer #11 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋