my 17 month old daughter is going to her nanas today until saturday.i really cant wait!!she is hardwork. am i wrong to be looking forward to this????!!! does it make me a bad mum??
2007-02-08 00:49:04 · 39 answers · asked by xloux 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I had my daughter when my son was just 11 months old. Any respite was soooooo welcome, I can't even begin to tell you! Being a mum is truly the hardest job of all.
Have a wonderful few days, you lucky, lucky girl!
2007-02-08 00:58:13 · answer #1 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every mother is a working mother, whether she spends time away from home to earn a paycheck or not. I have been on both sides of the fence and know for a fact that every mother's role is a demanding, never-ending one. Shortly after scaling that fence with leaps and bounds, I admitted to myself, "I could really use a coffee break right about now."
A 9-to-5 shift outside the home includes a meal break to refuel and rejuvenate. Mothers who care for young children 24/7 may be left running on an empty tank because self-cleansing is penciled in lightly on the calendar and often erased. Ever hear of career burn-out? It can happen to the best of us.
Many SAHMs find their roles rewarding and fulfilling, yet have a need for that overdue coffee break. Perhaps a bi-weekly manicure, a trip to the grocery store without children in tow or quiet time at home for a little rest and relaxation will do. A trip to Nanni's, hurray!
To Nurture Well is to Nurture Yourself, Too
There is no reason for a SAHM to feel guilty about having a slight desire or desperate need for occasional time away from her children. Whether this time is spent alone or with an adult friend, doing something productive or self-pampering, it is time well-deserved.
2007-02-08 00:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. It makes you a fab mummy who needs a day off. You'll both be better for it. look after that nana-my daughters are 8 and 5 and have only ever been away from teatime saturday to sunday lunchtime. It's a break but not quite enough!
2007-02-08 23:53:30 · answer #3 · answered by emmy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its that bad.. It's just that in my case whenever I'm out of the house, it' s like it's great to be out once again but at the end of the day or after I've been out for quite some time or whenever I see a toddler, I MISS my daughter so much that I wanna get home right away..
2007-02-08 01:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by CHES 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel bad. the minute we have our kids, we change from being xloux, amy, jane, sarah etc to being mummy. Time out from the kids allows us to reclaim our names and be ourselves instead of just mummy. Being a mother, although hard work is also one of the most fulfilling things we will experience in our lives. but at times it can play havoc with our sanity so time out is the only remedy.
I have a 6 year old brother and my mum takes my daughter (4yrs) every other weekend to allow me to be me (she is picking her up this evening actually-yipee!). This allows both me and my husband to not be mummy and daddy and spend some quality time together if u get my drift (nudge, nudge, wink, wink). You are right to look forward to it. get a home relaxing kit, some candles and some bubble bath, bolt the door and enjoy ahhhhh
2007-02-08 21:38:35 · answer #5 · answered by abi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not a bad mom. I think all mother's with children around that age would like some quiet time. I used to feel bad when my daughter was gone for a few days, but I think having a break is good for my sanity
2007-02-08 00:56:05 · answer #6 · answered by Cocoa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not!!!! You have devoted your life to her, and it's time you had a break. The fact that your worrying if your a bad mum shows that you are a great mum. She will have a whale of a time at her Nana's, she'll probably be glad of a break from you. I am convinced they get bored of us!!
2007-02-08 02:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by chelle0980 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, of course you should be looking forward to it. we have left our son at my mums for weekends quite a few times and he loves it. It will make you a better parent as you have time for yourself and can then enjoy her more when you get back. A word of advice try not to make too much fuss when you leave her or when you arrive back, also the first time be prepared for them to play up for the next week.
2007-02-08 01:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God, no! Kids can really do your head in sometimes. Mine used to go to my mothers for 4 weeks in the summer hols and I loved every minute of it. I even looked forward to their first day at school, especially with the youngest one. I used to go home, cuppa, cig, paper, all in complete silence. Absolute bliss! You enjoy your few days of freedom, it might be a long time before you get any more!
2007-02-08 01:06:40 · answer #9 · answered by PATRICIA L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No not at all, everybody needs a break and you deserve one too. I had a weekend away last weekend and left the kids with my husband while I stayed at my best friends house, it was fantastic!! Enjoy your weekend off, take some time to relax and most of all don't feel guilty, your daughter will have a fab time too!
2007-02-08 00:54:00 · answer #10 · answered by Muddyblackcat 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋