Should you be expected to trust your partner if he/she tells lies (including little white lies) now and then?

Question

Example of a little lie: I asked my boyfriend to bring me hot chocolate from the local shop, he returned empty handed saying there wasn't any. I went to the shop later and they had about 3 different makes of hot chocolate... this made me think (adding the big lies he has told me in the past) that he will always be able to lie to me even if it's little silly lies like that and I just can't cope with it anymore...

Answer 1

It's sooo hard to trust a partner who lies to you a lot even the 'white lies'.

I've been lied to so many times by my husband that I can't trust him and he gets mad at me when I can't trust him. I've just been burned by him too many times by him the last 15 years we've been together

Answer 2

You can't trust them.
When they lie about every little thing, then can't remember the lies they told to cover up the lies, their credibility really falls short.

There are some folks out in the world that are habitual liars and you'll never know what the truth is, even when they are being honest.

Answer 3

You're speaking of two opposites: trust and lies

trust = truth as

no trust = lies

Get the picture?

He needs to change his ways and always be honest with you, so that you can build your trust back up for him, but this will take time.

Or, he can stay exactly the same way which will leave the ball in your court:

Either you can stay with a habitual liar and count your blessings for a mediocre life, or

You can go on to brighter and better things, because you only have one life to live, and why not live it the the fullest?

The choice is your's.

Answer 4

It depends on the nature of the lie and how often. Generally speaking, the worse the lie and the greater the frequency the less the trust.

Answer 5

If they are flat out lying to you {where they were, who they were with etc} then no. If they are then they apparently have something to hide.There should be no need to lie if they are being true to you.

If they are saying you look great in that outfit so they don't hurt your feelings that's a little different. Although I would rather hear that I don't look that great so I could go change.

If your not willing to tell it then maybe you shouldn't be doing it.

Answer 6

It all depends on the situation. If you catch them in a lie that makes you uncomfortable, then i would say trust would be altered! It really depends if the lies send off flags to you or not!

Answer 7

somebody does not choose to assert lies needed and circumstances stress him to assert lie.extra over now a days without lie there is amazingly no longer worry-free to stay to tell the story in large quantity and if u say that u will say purely reality then it rather is amazingly no longer worry-free to stay to tell the story and stay it would be mixer of both75% reality and 25% lie and that i think of this sounds good because of the fact it rather is the authentic and functional what i'm asserting. .

Answer 8

trust is what we both men & women wants.
this is also very imporatnt in a relationship.

trust will be gone if ur partner break d rule & once it's broken, it's hard to get it back again...

u shud also set some limits & try to get d reason behind d lying...if its a great deal of lies den why wud u still trust him or her?

its ur choice to be blind & accept like its no big deal or ur choice to leave...

Answer 9

no b/c one white lie might turn into several big lies and u don't want to put ur self through that.

Answer 10

No, but sometimes ppl tend to try to give them the benefit of the doubt. Hoping that one day they'd change and start being upfront with you. Just try to keep your guard up, and know when enough is enough.