We broke up for about 10 days, and then he had his cousin, who is a friend of mine, to ask me if he and I could talk.I was out of town helping a friend.So we spoke on the phone,all last weekend, and he says he still loves me and still wants to marry me if I will have him.
We agreed to meet up this weekend.Then nothing, I call him and his cell doesn't even ring it goes straight to voice mail, I send him emails, Myspace messages, nothing.I have asked his cousin and 16 year old brother to ask him to contact me.I feel like an idiot, I got one message where he claims he never recieved any voice messages and that he has returned all my emails, I get emails from other people but not from him.
I feel like a stalker, constantly calling and messaging him,but I know if I stop, he is going to start to play the victim, why is he doing this?When should I give up?
Thanks for taking the time to read and answer, I know it's a long one,I appreciate it.
2007-02-07 23:25:49 · 25 answers · asked by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
BTW we broke up over things he did I was giving him a second chance.
2007-02-07 23:26:34 · update #1
well....I would say that the time to give up is right this minute.....he's is messing with your head and is immature and insensitive.....why would you continue to pursue someone like that...you broke up for a reason.....let it go and move on with your life...he is so not worth your time...good luck
2007-02-07 23:30:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't think of it as giving up, you should consider it MOVING ON TO SOMETHING BETTER.
Quit calling and messaging and having friends act as interlopers - it's not good for your self-esteem as it makes you feel (and appear to him) pathetic. Not only do you feel like an idiot - he obviously thinks you're one too.
About him saying he mysteriously hasn't received any of your voicemails, emails, etc. - HE'S LYING.
Don't allow him to play the victim. Once you quit trying to contact him, you should not then accept any contact by him.
Stop taking this emotionaly toying and abuse, spend some time on your own figuring out what you REALLY want and need from a man, and then - go out and look for it and do NOT settle for anything less. Good luck, girl. It's not easy demanding more for yourself and your life, but it can be done!
2007-02-08 07:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Marvelissa 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't give him a third chance, Sherry. He's obviously not prepared to take you seriously. You have given him all the opportunities you could be expected to, and still he treats you casually. Know that this is the way he is, and he will never change. People don't. Either you accept the heartache and put up with his disrespect for a lifetime, or you dust off, turn around, walk away and leave him in the past. You owe it to yourself to look after Sherry Baby first, and find a MAN who will do the same.
2007-02-08 07:37:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First if he lives close enough for you to go and visit...go talk to him in person, yourself. See what is going on. If this is not possible and you are the one giving him the second chance, then , let him feel the victim...HE obviously knows you have been trying to keep in contact (by other people) and he acknowledges this by saying he never received any voice mails or emails . So my advice is to stop. If he is truly the one for you, let him earn your trust again, . Sounds like he LIKES being pursued by you, and just gives enough attention to you to keep you chasing after him. NO sweetie you are not the fool, he seems like he just wants you to feel that way. move on, the right guy is waiting for you!
2007-02-08 07:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he's playing you, but I can't be sure. He is obviously not as interested in you as he says he is. Something is taking up his time or he would be spending more time answering your emails and calls. He could even have his cousin and brother covering for him. My best recommendation is to stop emailing and calling him for a week or so and see what happens. If you don't hear from him, I'd just forget him and move on. He's not worth messing with. Why should you sit around and wait on him?
2007-02-08 07:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by golden rider 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I would stop playing his game. I'd let him take the initiatives in calling, messaging, just all means of communication if he really wanted to contact me. I wouldn't return his calls no matter what he said in the voice mail. If he wanted to meet me, I'd have him come to my place and pick me up and tell him in advance that I wouldn't wait if he's late because my time is precious.
If he asks why are you playing cool, just let him know that you're tired of being fooled, that if he really cares about you, do sth to show that.
If he does nothing at all, that's fine. you 2 have broken up anyway. forget about this jerk.
2007-02-08 08:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by dreamland 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You feel like a stalker... this means you are doing all the contacting. I would advise you to pull back as far as you can. You have to reverse your strategy. The guy sounds like a lying you know what. Can you try to get over him? Either way, whether you want him or not, you have to pull back now. All this contacting and making efforts to communicate is scaring him away and/or letting him know he has you when he wants you. You can never let a man think that non ononononono NO.
2007-02-08 07:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you need to think about why you broke up in the first place instead of why you want him back...Also if he is really immature maybe he wanted to be the one to break it off and you beat him to it........So he did it this weekend.I would not give him the time of day sweetheart.I don't know what he did the first time around but If he wanted to be with you he should be trying to win you over with flowers and affection not the other way around.I say cut this guy loose and move on.You deserve better.
2007-02-08 07:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by stegall_sherry 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him bull**** you over the phone. Don't contact him or call him. Let him call you and if he does it better be to go out to dinner and talk about what you both want and not a booty call. If he is serious he will make a lot of effort to contact you and be with you in person, other than just sexually. If he doesn't he isn't as serious as you think and better to just let him go do whatever he's doing.
2007-02-08 07:33:27 · answer #9 · answered by SmartDude 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
he's sure giving you mixed messages ! I say dump him ! He's playing you around, you're being fooled. If he truly loved you he wouldn't be messing around for so long, playing hard to get because it should be a serious relationship. He's old enough to know and not act like a 15-year old boy ! He has other matters on his mind and you deserve better. He's being immature and stupid. if he's going to play victim, well that just shows how old he acts. He should seriously grow up if he wants to MARRY YOU !
2007-02-08 07:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by rainbowstylin 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think he is playing games with you. He wants to see how much you love him and how far can he manipulate you!
Dont chase him anymore! And even if he start again to chase you, make yourself difficulat to get. Do not answer his sms or calls; cutt him off! Fry him in his own oil and let him see how far does it hurt. If he is genuine, he would learn his lesson and appologise to you eventually. My guess is that he is NOT! You, though, would know better.
I really wish you the best!
But do not accept his games.
2007-02-08 07:34:18 · answer #11 · answered by Ebby 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋