Would you date me, or would I seem too frigard and desparate?

Question

I feel really shy and embarrassed around the male population. I can barely look them in the eye, so I just look at my knees instead. I'm 17, and despite having about 7 chances to date I've basically been single my whole life, have never dated and have never been kissed. I wish I had a boyfriend, but I don't see it ever happening. I can see myself as a crazy old lady with 72 cats before I ever get with someone. I'm always making lots of mistakes and embarrassing myself. From my last highschool where I left because of bullying, I got the gist that I was fat and ugly, and that nothing I did could ever be forgiven because I can't pull of being cute. I also have a bit of a speech problem when I'm nervous, that makes people think I'm an idiot, when in reality, I have an above average IQ. I don't really have any street cred as such, and am always saying the silliest things.

Would people get a vibe about how I feel around them? Oh and would you date me besides all that?

Don't worry about the "street thing". I think I define it differently from other people, because I'm a New Zealander, not an American girl! It doesn't have anything to do with gangs here, more like saying things in a way people respect, with charisma and style without looking like a try-hard or poser. Thats the best I can describe it though, its a bit deeper than that though.

I know, I have come across a lot of losers at my age. Most of the guys worth dating have girlfriends, which is probably why I'm still single.

I did post a question with these details a few days ago, but it was a different question. I can't believe you saw both of them. Thanks for leaving a comment anyway =)

Answer 1

Well, I am always making a fool of myself too and I don't have much street cred either, but everyone feels like you deep down. It's a cliche, but you are still very young (the cats are a long way off!). Don't worry about what everyone else seems to be doing and try to enjoy yourself, as confidence shows through and being anxious and not liking yourself is not an attractive quality (for friends as well as the other). The speech problem will hopefully become better as you gain in confidence. There's nothing wrong with taking your time and not rushing in and focus on developing friendships for now as they are more important and will give you the confidence and support to find a decent guy eventually.

Answer 2

I swear I read this question last week. I am way to old, but somebody will date you no matter what, I would warn you that most guys that ask you, at your age are not worth your time. so don't rush to date the first guy that comes along.

Answer 3

Everyone is different, don't think too much.