I am moving on from an ex 28 yrs that doesn't want a relationship right now because of certain reasons i.e his frame of mind at this moment in time. We were like BEST FRIENDS aswell as lovers.We gelled right from the start, we were both mentally stimulating & enjoyed evryday of each others company every time I hav tried to move on he has ALWAYS come bac but it is the end now on my part I feel so hurt by the fact that he has messed me about so much with broken promises & his inability 2 commit. My chest hurts with PAIN, I keep crying because I can't hold the tears back. The thing is that when a few months hav passed I KNOW he is goin to want start somethin wit me as then he will be in that frame of mind & I won't want to be with him! I appreciate his honesty. But I am stil hurt.he can't understand why we can't be friends & se what happens in the future. But I feel that if he does want 2 b with me in the future that when he asks I should say no? what do you think? should I DECLINE?
2007-02-07 22:26:15 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We haven't seen each other for a month but he has phoned me a few times to see how I am etc. He called me Tuesday night but I missed the call and then he called me again last night to ask how my new job was going. So it is like he still wants to be apart of my life and can tell that he still cares for me. But I need to LOOK OUT FOR MYSELF NOW. Do you think that if does want to be together in the future that I should decline?
2007-02-07 22:32:39 · update #1
If you are accessible to him, then he is never you EX!
He is only your EX, when you have moved on and don't need to entertain his text messages, his phone calls, or his "drive-bys".
Either put out or shut out!
And of course he will be back around in a few months when all of his other "options" dry up!
2007-02-07 22:30:46 · answer #1 · answered by DaMan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts but get on with your life
you have already answered your own question you said he will do it again
take time for yourself just go out and live life go to a concert go out to a sports bar if you like sports
go shopping or dinner with the girls
mr right will find you
don't fall back into the trap and be hurt again it sounds like you have been hurt long enough
2007-02-08 06:34:12 · answer #2 · answered by elite_women_rule_the_rock 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you already know the answer to your question. I agree with you, if he's causing you this much pain then it's not a relationship that will benefit either of you. It just seems to me that he wants to have control of you. He jerks you around until you are ready to move on then he reels you back in and starts all over again. If you hurt this much outside of a relationship with him then what do you expect to see change by getting with him, my guess is that if you get with him it will only get worse for you.
2007-02-08 06:34:51 · answer #3 · answered by faern2877 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short. if he has hurted you one time then you must move on. he comes back only because he knows that you you are there for him.find a boy that he worths it.And never never let anyone hurt your feelings again..some people just never change.
2007-02-08 06:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
changing his mind from time to time, huh? it's hard and complicated. you should better think about committing again yourself to him. give yourself space and time away from him so that you will realize if you really love him as someone you see beside you everymorning of your life or you love him because he's your friend.
think first before doing anything.
2007-02-08 06:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no aslong as you think they have changed ok
2007-02-08 06:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by Lil MiZ Jj 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋