i split up with my ex 5 yrs ago and need help getting over her. she has moved on and its tearign me apart, i cant eat, sleep or do anything. i really want to self-harm to get over the pain but i thought id see if anyone cud help me b4 i go down that road.
2007-02-07 22:00:48 · 24 answers · asked by azil_jesani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For your own good, seek professional mental health counseling immediately.
2007-02-07 22:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by scaminator63 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years is a long time to be still torn up over someone. There's no need to hurt yourself over this. That won't solve a thing and you can't take it back later if you change your mind. You really need to let her go. Easier said than done, I know but you have to face reality. Life is all about meeting new people. With that comes the fact that people will not stay in your life forever. That's just life. It's painful, yes but the older you get, the more you realize that this is just the way it is. You're not going through anything you can't get over. You can live without anyone. No person holds the key to your life. You have to let her go. She has moved on and you need to as well. You can hold onto your good memories of her but you need to also realize that living in the past does you no good. You can't move forward if you're always looking back. We've all been gutted by a failed relationship but that's what builds your character. Everything ends at some point. You can't control it and if you dwell on it, it will eat you alive.
Go seek some thearpy. You need someone to talk this out to. A third party that has no vested interest in the relationship. You also need to get outside, get some hobbies and meet some new people. Push yourself to do these things. It's hard at first but after awhile, it won't be so hard. You need to take an active role in getting over this. Stop dwelling on her or how she's moved on. You too can move on if you just take the first steps. We've all done it. We've all been hurt and we've all had to move on. You have no choice if you ever want to be happy again. Good luck & please don't harm yourself in any way, shape or form. Please go see a therapist as well.
2007-02-07 22:13:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although it was 5 years ago the pain is obviously still as raw as the day you split up. You need to ask yourself why? Sometimes if we suffer from from depression we blame one particular thing, this makes the pain and sadness easier to understand. Were you depressed when you were together? Maybe over the last 5 years you have always hoped you would get back together and now she has moved on you realise its final. If this is the case then you need to give yourself time, it really is a great healer.
If you simply just havent let go then i think its now time you sought some help, go along to your doctor and ask about counselling so you can get to the real root of your problem. I used to self harm and it is very difficult to stop so if you can help it then dont start, it does give a quick fix but you will find you need to do it more and more to get the relief you need and its a slippery slope. Please see your G.P x
2007-02-07 22:27:18 · answer #3 · answered by British*Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i visit be the 1st to confess that i had the toughest time in getting over my ex. so i be attentive to precisely the form you experience. yet I could ask you something. are you able to take a seem at your self for me? what has got here about interior the previous seven years? have you ever met all people else? have you ever tried to fulfill all people else? if the solutions no then i might say why no longer? what do you obtain to lose? no longer something. you're in all probability a great guy and that i'm specific you are able to desire to discover somebody in case you tried. i will inform you superb now, there have been days that i did no longer think of i might make it without him and then i eventually awakened. i assure which you would be able to fulfill all people you elect. and while you're a extraordinary guy i do no longer see why you will have any issues looking somebody else. so do no longer bypass down "that street" there is not any element in doing that. get obtainable and decide for it!
2016-11-02 21:13:45 · answer #4 · answered by canevazzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude,,,,sometimes these things take a little longer than they should. I split from a girl who I loved with the whole of my heart and would do anything for her, I miss her and would do anything to see her again but that was almost twenty years ago now and my wife would be upset to say the least. I know what your going through and it can be tuff, just take each day as it comes mate and you might pop out the other side of this a winner.
2007-02-07 22:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by "THE WISE ONE" 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Five years and you still can't eat or sleep?! Thoughts of harming yourself?! In this day and age, how can anyone not know this is serious depression? A treatable illness. Don't suffer anymore, hun. Call a psychologist, psychiatrist, or counseling center first thing tomorrow!
2007-02-07 22:07:59 · answer #6 · answered by trai 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, life is too short.
Either get busy living or get busy dying!
Let's rewind the camera to the year before you met this woman?
Were you breathing then?
Did you ever smile or laugh before you met this woman?
Did you have a childhood before you met this woman?
Did you have someone else you talked to in high school and college before you met her? We call these peope -- FRIENDS!
Did you have parents who knew your first name and who clothed you and fed you just because you were of their flesh?
Chances are, the answers to all of these are yes!
So, you were a PERSON before you met your ex, and you are still a person now.
However, you have to understand and respect this universal truth and work on your self-image. No woman is worth my life and my soul.
God made me complete and whole BEFORE he added Eve to the Garden of Eve. He added Eve because he said no man should be alone. But don't get it wrong, God said "SHOULD be alone". God didn't say, "Man can not survive without a woman on his shoulder!".
And honestly, will self-harm make your ex come back? Probably not, it will just confirm that she made the right decision in leaving you!
2007-02-07 22:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by DaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say u're generally depressed and blame this on your split so as not to face the real issue. Find out what this is and you'll be able to work through hpefully, as long as you keep telling yourself it's about her ,u won't get over it . Good luck.
2007-02-08 00:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by FIZZYMIA 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get over it, it's 5 years ago. Get some counseling. I could see 6 months ago. Not 5 years. There's something serious going on in you that needs help.
2007-02-07 22:03:40 · answer #9 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dude you split up with her 5 years ago? Get over it....I hope you mean she was your girl for 5 years and you recently split, in that case, the best thing to do is time...sorry bro...or get a new girl quick, it's wrong but it'll fix you.
2007-02-07 22:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know abt you, i realised that if you do not want to help urself by moving on, chances are you wont be able to :) its not easy definitely but no ones said its not possible, come one day when u mit ur true love, u may be laughing those 5 years that u have wasted over memorising the relationship...
there are 2 things in life, i thk worth embracing, thats 1st love and 2nd dream, since maybe right now u are not able to embrace love once again, why dont u embrace ur dream, cos its take both hand to embrace either one!!!
2007-02-07 22:19:46 · answer #11 · answered by puzzlesw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋